Life can get busy. Things happen that take priority over other things. But, the relationship that you share with your significant other is sooo important. When things get busy and life changes, or if there is distance between you, that relationship is taken for granted at times. Needs aren’t met, communication isn’t there, and sometimes, trust can be broken too.
So, here are a few tips that I have learned from my own relationship that will help maintain the spark in yours!
- FLIRT
I cannot stress this enough. Sure, the chase was fun before you made it official, but KEEP. THE. CHASE. UP. Make your partner feel wanted and confident even if you have been dating for X amount of months/years. It keeps the relationship fun and flirty when you are both so into each other. I love giving and getting hype in my relationship. It is not only a confidence booster, but it feels good to flirt and keep it lovey-dovey.
2. Put Phones Away
If you are hanging out together, don’t let the phones keep you apart. Put the phones away and just sit and talk together. I know how addicting scrolling on Instagram can be, but you got this. Even if it is just for thirty minutes, put your phone in the other room and enjoy the presence of your partner!
3. Go Out on Dates
This ties with the first one, but I cannot stress this one enough either. In the beginning of the relationship, I am sure you both were trying to impress one another by going to fancy restaurants, getting dressed up, and whatnot. And now, y’all stay sitting at home in your PJs. And don’t get me wrong, that makes me so happy knowing I am so comfortable with him that I can just walk around with my hair in a rats nest and an old T-Shirt. So, with that, have a day where you both can go out in public on a date. Go to the movies, go to a restaurant (doesn’t have to always be fancy), go dancing, or go on a nice walk together. Or, staying in and cooking a nice dinner and watching your favorite movie together sounds like a great plan, too. Whatever it is, put that effort in to going out and having fun.
4. LAUGH
Don’t you love those moments where someone says something and you just laugh until your stomach hurts? I know I do. So, when you are having a conversation, don’t feel restricted from letting your goofy side out. Laughter is the best and it is free. No restrictions, no payment required, nothing. Just that boost of happiness and laughter will help you.
5. Communicate
This goes without saying, but ALWAYS communicate. Communicate to your partner what it is that is bothering you, what it is that is making you happy, what it is that is making you sad. Doesn’t matter. But always communicate. Don’t shut them out…bring them in. For the longest time, I liked to hide my emotions but as I have learned, your relationship is all about that. Don’t make your partner an enemy or an outsider to your feelings!
I believe in you! And if you and your partner are in a funk, just know there is a brighter side, and don’t get discouraged! There are simple things you can do to help each other grow.