So, you’re going through a breakup and it sucks. We’ve all been there, and will probably be there again. Your heart hurts, you’re sad, and you miss that guy no matter how much you know it’s better that you broke up. So, what to do now?
Take a step back
If you agree to be friends, great that’s amazing! But right when you break up, there’s hurt feelings. Take a step back from them, at least for a while. Let yourself heal, and then if you want to be friends go for it. But take a step back for a hot minute.
Take down the pictures, or delete them off your phone
Do a little cleanse. Don’t delete them totally if you don’t want to, but put them somewhere you won’t be looking at every day. It won’t help to keep them up. Take Taylors advice, it’s just another picture to (metaphorically?) burn. You do you girl.
Distract yourself
Take up a hobby. Make new friends. Make plans with current friends. Get out of the house basically. Go dancing, or hiking. Find things that make you happy and do them. You can be as selfish as you want, so do it!
Find cheesy motivational pictures to remind yourself you’re amazing
Probably sounds really cheesy, but it helps. Set one as your background, hang them around your house, just have them. They may seem really stupid, but if you open your phone every day to see a screensaver that builds you up it helps. You already know you’re amazing, but sometimes you might just need a little reminder.
Remember it’s okay to be sad
You just ended a relationship. It’s sad, and that’s okay. It is okay to curl up at home and watch a good tear jerker. It’s okay to eat ice-cream and hang out in your pajamas. But only to a point. Yes, it sucks, but you also need to get up and get on with your life. That sounds very harsh, but it’s true. Take some time to be sad, but then realize it’s time to get moving again.
Time heals all
Time really is the best healer. Don’t rush into a new relationship just because you’re lonely. That’s not fair to either of you. Take time, and realize it’s going to get better. Time heals all.
If all else fails, run away to an island destination for a week
This is a little extreme, but hey who can be sad on the beach. Or if the beach isn’t your thing, then the mountains or a beautiful city you love. There’s no faster way to get you out of a rut than to shake it up a bit. Maybe it doesn’t need to be as drastic as running away to the beach for a week, but do something to help you get excited again. Life is beautiful, we have to keep living it!
So, get yourself up and dust yourself off, ladies; breakups suck, but we are all amazing. I promise life has a weird way of working out, so stop stressing over a guy. Live your life how you want to, and do only what makes you happy. Life will provide good things.