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We’re Here, We’re Queer, And We Struggle To Get Girls To Notice That We’re Flirting With Them

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Tampa chapter.

Hi, I’m Karla and if it wasn’t obviously enough stated in my title, I’m Queer. I identify as a Genderfluid Pansexual person, so what that means is that I accept any and all gender pronouns and enjoy all flavors of the rainbow. 

As someone who is interested in female-identifying people, I tend to have this recurring problem of not dropping enough hints to the point that they notice that I am flirting with them. For example, I could say something as obvious as “Hi” or “I love your jacket” and they still wouldn’t get the hint! 

No, but in all seriousness that is how I flirt with girls. Male identifiers are easier to flirt with just because of the simple fact that they tend to automatically get the hint. They have a tendency to think that all people in the world are a prospect until proven otherwise, but girls tend to automatically put all other female-presenting people in the friend zone, and that is the hurdle that any female-presenting person attracted to another female-presenting person must overcome. To my fellow Queer people, we have a long road ahead of us but just remember that perseverance (and straightforwardness) is key. Godspeed my fellow alphabet mafia members, godspeed.

Karla is a 2021 cum laude graduate with a BFA in Musical Theatre. Karla is originally from Maryland and is very proud of Karla's Afro-Latinx heritage. Karla is currently in pursuit of a career in TV/film acting, and Karla's dream role would be to portray a superhero. In Karla's free time Karla enjoys reading, watching Netflix (no chill necessary), and taking long walks on the metaphorical beach to universal equity.
Amanda Thompson is a native of Portland, Maine who is currently a Senior studying Communications at The University of Tampa. When she's not binge-watching New Girl, you can find her dancing around to Jhené Aiko, Lana Del Rey or Kehlani. If you want to keep up with Amanda, follow her on Instagram @amaandathompson