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We’re Here, We’re Queer, And We Struggle To Get Girls To Notice That We’re Flirting With Them

Karla Maiden-Vazquez Student Contributor, University of Tampa
Amanda Thompson Student Contributor, University of Tampa
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Tampa chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Hi, I’m Karla and if it wasn’t obviously enough stated in my title, I’m Queer. I identify as a Genderfluid Pansexual person, so what that means is that I accept any and all gender pronouns and enjoy all flavors of the rainbow. 

As someone who is interested in female-identifying people, I tend to have this recurring problem of not dropping enough hints to the point that they notice that I am flirting with them. For example, I could say something as obvious as “Hi” or “I love your jacket” and they still wouldn’t get the hint! 

No, but in all seriousness that is how I flirt with girls. Male identifiers are easier to flirt with just because of the simple fact that they tend to automatically get the hint. They have a tendency to think that all people in the world are a prospect until proven otherwise, but girls tend to automatically put all other female-presenting people in the friend zone, and that is the hurdle that any female-presenting person attracted to another female-presenting person must overcome. To my fellow Queer people, we have a long road ahead of us but just remember that perseverance (and straightforwardness) is key. Godspeed my fellow alphabet mafia members, godspeed.

Karla is a 2021 cum laude graduate with a BFA in Musical Theatre. Karla is originally from Maryland and is very proud of Karla's Afro-Latinx heritage. Karla is currently in pursuit of a career in TV/film acting, and Karla's dream role would be to portray a superhero. In Karla's free time Karla enjoys reading, watching Netflix (no chill necessary), and taking long walks on the metaphorical beach to universal equity.
Amanda Thompson is a native of Portland, Maine who is currently a Senior studying Communications at The University of Tampa. When she's not binge-watching New Girl, you can find her dancing around to Jhené Aiko, Lana Del Rey or Kehlani.
If you want to keep up with Amanda, follow her on Instagram @amaandathompson