So many times I have heard girls saying, “I can’t have sex with him, even though I want to, because I can’t raise my number!”Although these girls may want to experience something new and may want to hook up with a guy, they don’t do it due to the fear of this so-called “number” escalating.
This number is the number of sexual partners a male or female has had. Stereotypically, women accept men’s numbers much more than a lot of men accept a woman’s number. When a man has sex with multiple women, it makes them look like “the man,” however if a girl is to do that, she often will be referred to as a slut.Â
Questions then come into play. If I have sex with too many men, will I still be able to get married? Will the man I’m with accept this number? Does the man I’m with deserve to even know this number? Personally, I don’t think anyone should be judged by a number. As long as those numbers are in the past, then that is where they should remain. The only time a man deserves to know is if it is a safety concern due to the spreading of any sort of sexually transmitted disease.Â
Ladies, just because one man has given you a hard time over your number, that doesn’t mean that all men will. Andrew Lederman, 20, from Suffolk University states that, “If anything, the more experience someone has, the more attractive they are to me. I think it often displays a type of confidence that they know what they want and they go and get it accordingly.”
Be confident in the people that you have been with and the choices that you have made in the past. Define the number but don’t let the number define you.