As the holiday season arrives and the cool air rolls in, we are all starting to prepare for our time away from school and find the courage and joy with our family. But we all know and have that one family member who brings the mess or drama. Or even just having rising tensions, emotional triggers, and uncomfortable conversations. Claiming peace can be challenging when dealing with strong personalities and unresolved issues. So here are 5 ways to continue to support your sanity during the holidays:
1. Plan Activities That Reduce Conflict
By planning simple and fun activities, it creates a way for everyone to get their mind off all the craziness. Whether it is fun TikTok games, watching movies, or cooking together, it is a simple yet effective way to get everyone to come together for an extended period of time to avoid arguments.
2. Set Clear Boundaries
Protect your peace by setting clear boundaries about what you are and aren’t willing to talk about. You can kindly express that you don’t want to discuss a topic to stay clear of issues. And you can always step away from the discussion altogether to avoid any further confusion.
3. Communication
Communication is key not only in relationships but also in the family. Communicating that you do not feel comfortable talking about certain topics or issues can let them know to avoid speaking about them. You can also sit down and talk about the situation if you are up to it, but be sure to remain calm when speaking and try to listen to what the other person is saying.
4. Pick Your Battles
Now, everyone loves to get the last word in, but not every disagreement is going to be solved without delay. Sometimes you just have to let it slide and be the bigger person because in the end, it will bring you more peace.
5. Manage Expectations
Instead of preparing for the worst, prepare for the expected. You have to accept that some family members will always act the same, so instead of hoping that they will come correct, just plan how you respond rather than react. And try to remind yourself that not everything has to be perfect and that it’s okay for things not to go according to plan.