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How to Get Over Your Ex Without Getting Under a New One

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Stony Brook chapter.

We’ve all been through it before. You wake up and you don’t know how to move forward. Something isn’t adding up. How could it? How do go you from being used to a person, day in and day out, to never hearing from them anymore? Naturally, you start weighing out your options, ways that could fast forward through this bad experience and take you back to happy days.

We’ve all heard the cliche “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” So do you download Tinder, talk to your friend about hooking you up with someone, or find better ways to move on?

Here are some things you can to help mend your broken heart.

1. Be honest with yourself when you’re not okay. If crying is going to make you feel better or screaming to let out some of that anguish you’ve been feeling, do it. Bottling up your emotions will only hold you back.

2. Go out with your friends. You can’t imagine how good it’ll feel. Put on some makeup, wear your best outfit, and have some fun. You don’t have to go home with someone or drunk text your ex. But yes, dare to flirt a little.

3.  Keep yourself busy. This is one of the best things you can do after a breakup . Take that class you’ve always wanted to take. Develop new habits. Volunteer somewhere if you have the time. Focus your energy on doing some good.

4. Unfollow them. Cyberstalking your ex isn’t going to do any good. So yes, unfollow him, no matter how hard it is or how petty it might look.

At the end of the day, there’s no right way to get over someone, no set time to heal your broken heart. Getting under someone will keep you entertained for the time being but it only pushes you into a rebound relationship. But no matter how painful it is, always remember you’ll always have you. 

Her Campus Stony Brook Founder and Campus Correspondent Stony Brook University Senior Minnesotan turned New Yorker English Major, Journalism Minor