If you’re anything like me, then you were probably ecstatic about living with your three best friends on the upper classmen side. A privilege Stockton offers to upperclassmen is apartment living so we’ve eagerly been anticipating sophomore year. I grew up an only child so living with three other girls sounded like heaven to me. Nonstop laughing, secret telling and someone always there for me (giving opinions on outfits, of course) but then again, sometimes it can be more than what I bargained for. Here are the best and worst things about living with three best friends.
Worst
Yours, mine and ours
Growing up as an only child, I guess you can say I was spoiled. Not only with affection and things but with the fact nothing had to be shared. The food was mine, the bathroom was mine, everything was mine. Living with three other girls has taught me that I no longer have complete control. I find myself sharing things I never thought I would share. “Yes, I guess you can eat that…” and “No, of course you can shower before me” are now part of my vocabulary.
It’s the little things.
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You never realize how OCD you can be about things until your space is shared to the max. I find myself becoming my mom with cleaning dishes and making sure there is no hair in the bathroom drain. Having everything placed just the way I like it is not always possible with a shared space.While each roommate has her own definition of clean, of course you will always think your way is the best way. It’s a learning process; to know when to give and take.
Who are you and what have you done with my roomie?
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If you really know me, then you know i’m an any time of day person, which can be a blessing and a curse. I’m ALWAYS “chipper” as my roommate likes to call me. I can’t help that i’m always happy and ready for the next laugh, but living with three others has shown me not everyone is. While one of my roommates is a night owl another is an early riser, another one needs her alone time and I’m just there smiling away. Sometimes I have to be conscious of their needs and that sometimes it’s ok for them to be a bit moody and to just need space. I remind myself we all have our moments and to not take it personally.
We hanging out or nah?
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We all can relate to how hectic college life can be, am I right? Between hella classes, clubs and sports who has the time for much of anything? I certainly know my three roomies and I fall into these categories, which is why I hate that sometimes I feel like I rarely see them. I can go a whole day and be like “Did I even get to say ‘hi’ to her today?” It’s the struggle when all you guys want to do is make some cookies and watch scary movies on the couch together and the seperation anxiety is real but, in the end it always works out. You make the time and although sometimes it’s scarce, it’s about quality not quantity.
Best
Nonstop laughter
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Whenever the four of us are together in the apartment I swear we are fire. It’s nonstop inside jokes, singing, dancing, and laughing until you pee. My roommates and I have recently decided we are “the most” but that’s okay, even if the neighbors don’t like us laughing until 2 am, we know we are funny and should have our own show.
We have each other’s back
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You mess with one of us, you mess with all of us. Having three roommates is amazing because you have someone who always has your best interest in heart. Whether they are making sure you ate that day, making sure you got some sleep, or making sure you are simply happy. My roommates are my own personal cheering squad, bodyguards and are my go to people whenever I need help with literally anything.
There’s no judgement
If you can’t be comfortable around those who see you bare faced, messy bun, in pjs at 8:30 am, who can you be comfortable around? That’s how me and my roomies are. We see literally the best and worst of each other. We tell each other we look fierce whether we are rocking a “groufit” and face cream or the cutest dress and a smoky eye. There’s absolutely no judgement between us. “Treat yourself, have your 6th cookie” or “You’re totally a good singer” are things that are said amongst us. Others may not love us, but we love us and that’s all that matters.
We are family
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I didn’t grow up with sisters, but I sure have them now; three of them- and they are perfect. They love me for me and I love them for everything they are and aren’t. They are the best thing about my college experience and I’m so grateful that I get to come back from a long day to the little home we have created. There’s still so much the four of us are figuring out about ourselves and our futures, but i’m so glad i’m doing it alongside them. They have shown me that four different people can come together and be united no matter what.