Every girl comes to this age-old question in her relationship: when are you spending too much time with your significant other? You’ve created this tight knit bond with your “one and only” and everything for the most part is great, in fact, it’s downright wonderful. As your days become increasingly filled with more and more “couple” time, you begin to notice that your friends have stopped asking about your plans for your weekend nights. You might start to question whether you are spending too much time with your beloved and not enough on your homework, organizations or, most importantly, friends.
Here are a couple indications that you need some time away from your relationship:
Your friends greet you with a “I haven’t seen you in so long”
If you’re in a relationship, this is the number one hint a friend can give you to remind you of your friendship duties. You haven’t been around and they’ve missed you. Nothing is more unfortunate than losing friends due to a relationship because not only are you missing out on the ‘important’ things in each other’s life, you are also missing out on opportunities to make memories that you can look back on in your mid-80s as your ‘golden years’.
You forget the last time you were really “alone”
Me-time is imperative for any semi-healthy relationship. Sure, day trips can show you unseen sides of your sweetheart but if you can recount your entire daily activities together then boundaries are being crossed. Time alone can give you the opportunity to explore your own passions and interests. How are you going to start your own makeup company if you are spending all of your time together? Texts, Skype and phone calls with your significant other also counts as time together, so unplug yourself from your relationship and be all by yourself for once.
People have a nickname for you two as a couple
The couple nickname craze began with celebrity couples as a quick way to reference the both of the people while adding a bit of humor. Now those nicknames are being applied to couples that spend a lot of time together to the point that saying the names individually is down right tiring. Such nicknames imply that if half the couple is seen, the other half will not be far behind.
If you can say that you have not experienced any of these things, then you might have a good person in your life who gives you space to be free and do your own thing. However, you should continue to do a gut check every so often to make sure your number one priority is not your relationship (unless you are married). Remember, there is nothing sadder than breaking ties with your once beloved and finding that all of your friends have moved on without you. Keep your friendships alive and thriving and have your own pursuits and interests because honestly a person who only invests time in their relationship instead of their dreams is one boring individual.
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Stanford chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.