Have you ever been in a crowded room and all you can do is compare yourself to other people? Maybe you feel insecure about yourself or maybe you just think that she has it all. Or, quite possibly, it’s none of these things. Maybe you just have idea of “the perfect self” or “your perfect self” & things just quite aren’t coming together the way you thought they would. The way you thought were supposed to.
To be honest, I think every girl has felt this way to a certain extent. You know what I’m talking about, the “why does she have everything I can’t” mentality or what I like to call the “does she even go here” mentality.
This mentality comes with those outlandish thoughts and doubts. “Am I pretty enough? Skinny enough? Am I popular enough? Does my hair look okay?” The list goes on and on.
Truthfully, the hardest lesson to learn is how to love you. To be able to realize that comparing does nothing but keep you in a funk. The fact of the matter is, you’ll never be her. Thank God for that.
See, while you spend all this time exhausted, pretending to be someone who you are not; you dull all the beautiful things that make you who you are. So if you’re nervous or scared that someone won’t love you or that you don’t fit into size 2 jeans, don’t worry about it… let it go.
Why you ask?
The reason being is because no one can be a better you than you. No one can write your story other than yourself. Recognize that there will always be haters. Know that that’s because odds are they are insecure themselves. Don’t spend hours on Instagram body-shaming and life-comparing; sinking yourself into deeper depression. Remember that people’s lives on the outside are hardly ever what they appear to be on the inside.
However, I do caution with your newfound confidence or ever-present insecurity; watch to not become one of those girls. You know whom I am talking about…the ones who pushed you into your insecurities in the first place.
So, if you’ve ever felt this way or are feeling this way now…please, start today in recognizing your beauty in who you are and owning that; because the people who can see your beauty for who you are as a person and not just skin deep are the ones who deserve your attention.
This challenge may sound silly or cliché but it can be one of the most intimidating of all. I challenge you to stop comparing yourself to “her.” I challenge you to be your truest self and not be afraid to be vulnerable.
Trust me, it’ll be worth it in the long run.Â
Sincerely,
The girl who doesn’t wish she was “her.”Â