I didn’t begin to accept my physical changes until we moved out at the end of the second semester. Summer began and I was in no way “bikini body” ready. But for once, I didn’t mind. I took this past summer to reflect on myself, my life, and my priorities. I worked on becoming healthier and more active too, but my main focus was to become a better and happier person. One of the biggest things I realized was that outward appearance truly is insignificant in comparison to inner beauty. Having a kind heart and friendly personality means a whole heck of a lot more than having a “top of the line” physique. People will remember you by the things you say and how you make them feel, not how you look. And if someone does pass judgment based on another’s appearance – then they’re irrelevant anyway. That opinion does NOT define you. The only opinion about you that truly matters, is your own.
After this summer, I returned to school as a much more confident woman. Not because I lost my freshman 15, but because I found something inside of myself that I hadn’t seen before. I gained the motivation to work every day on becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be. Not focusing on my appearance as much as the type of person that I am on the inside. I am a lot less judgmental of myself, and others. I’ve learned to accept changes regarding my body and don’t allow them to affect my mind. Taking the time to reflect on yourself and prioritize is honestly a lifesaver – I strongly encourage it!
The reason I wrote this is to let you know that gaining the freshman 15 is OKAY. This is something I wish I had realized sooner. Regardless if you have gained any amount weight or not, everybody and every BODY is beautiful. Change is a good thing. It all depends on how you feel in your own skin! If you can stand confidently and feel the exact same pride in yourself, even after gaining a few pounds – that’s all that matters! However, if that extra weight has taken a toll on your self confidence, no worries beautiful. There are many easy changes you can make to get yourself to where you want to be physically and mentally – in the healthiest way possible! The most important thing is that you feel comfortable with yourself. So, if that requires losing some weight, go for it! Self love is SO very important. If you gain 1 pound or 30 – you are still stunning, still valued, and still YOU. A number does not define you or your ability to succeed. Life is far too short to hold yourself back from your true potential based from a negative self-view. Take your amazing qualities and put them to good use. Have faith in yourself and love for all of the little things that make you, you! Once you develop a strong admiration and respect for yourself – you will be unstoppable. Other’s opinions mean nothing when you have the confidence to recognize your undeniable value.
In conclusion: The Freshman 15 is REAL. But, it can only affect you negatively if you allow it to. If any weight is gained there’s only two things you can do. 1. Accept the way your body has changed and be proud in your own skin. 2. Put in the work to get yourself where you want to be! Nothing is permanent. Keep that in mind, and know that your value is in no way determined by the number on the scale.
Stay gorgeous!
HCXO
Ash