By: Amelia-Rose Williams
Hello? Are you still on the phone with that boy who refuses to get you flowers, pick you up for the date and insists on splitting the bill, but gives you the larger half to cover? Yeah, girl, I’m here to save you before you spend the rest of your life chasing unappreciation and failure.Â
When I first started dating, I won’t lie, my idea of love was quite deluded. I believed that love had to be like what they say in fairytales. You find one person who checks all the right boxes, and everyone lives happily ever after! I was so wrong, it’s actually sad.
To experience love means you are going to have to go through some trial and error. Now, not everyone can find the love of their life after only being with one or two people. To those who can, good for you! Now, back to those who can’t, stop trying. No, seriously, like, stop trying to look for that person.Â
I know that sounds crazy, but what I’ve noticed with this whole “situationship” thing is that a lot of individuals think that by going from person to person, the love of their life will magically fall into their lap. That’s a fallacy. While doing this, you are putting aside your morals, personality and even goals just to see if this person is your “special someone”.Â
Why? We lose ourselves in our relationships, putting aside our passions or just other things that we care about, just to make another person comfortable or choose us. In my opinion, actively going out of our way to continuously do something for the hope of that person being “the one” goes against what true love is supposed to be.Â
It’s emotionally exhausting having to put on that facade over and over again just because we crave a sense of security that only a relationship can provide. By focusing on yourself, I mean this method is pretty much unpatched. What you need will come to you.
Stop wasting your time being unappreciated by someone else just because you crave emotional validation. To truly love someone means that you love them despite their “quirks”. If the person in your life doesn’t appreciate you for your imperfections, they aren’t the one.