First off, this is in no way meant to bash my ex. That is the last thing I want to do right now. However, I am currently going through a breakup. It happens, probably way more than it should but that’s perfectly okay. I am hurting, but I know that I will be okay. One of the best things I did was reflect, a lot of reflecting.
I wanted to hangout with friends, I wanted to go to a party and just forget about it. Even better, I wanted to drive home to my family because I knew they would have been a fantastic support system. Instead, I wrote a letter to myself. It was refreshing, it felt good to get out all my feelings and realize the things that I really did wrong in the relationship.
Along with writing down the things I did wrong, I wrote about the things I did right. The things that made me smile because I did those things, things that I hope when I have the strength to start seeing others again, that I can share those kind acts with them.
Writing this letter to myself is something I can have as closure, and if you know anything about me it is that I need closure. I probably also need the last word, but we are also trying to work on that, too. Writing this letter was bittersweet. I wasn’t just saying goodbye to a three-year relationship, I was saying goodbye to a part of me that I can see has changed. Throwback to when I was thirteen and experienced my first relationship, I swear I searched wikiHow five times a day wondering how to get through a break up. In my letter, I wrote how I have grown since then.
There is no right or wrong way to write a letter to yourself, which is something I seem to always get caught up over when I do reflect. If you are going through a breakup right now, or honestly anything that is super life changing and you need some time to reflect on and also something tangible, I highly suggest writing it all down. My grandmother’s best advice to me is to write it down, see how I feel on paper. This is advice that I want to share with you because of how it helped me, and I hope that it can help someone else, too!