Imagine this: You are focusing on your personal life, school or both and you aren’t looking for anything. That’s when you receive a surprise, especially from a past that you were actually not expecting and didn’t see coming.
You start messaging with this person, confused as to why they showed up at the most random time and after so many years. You then realize slowly that this person was genuinely interested in you.
Or so you thought.
Unfortunately this happened to me recently. Everything was going super well and then all of a sudden, I got blocked.
You start questioning everything that you have done, thinking back on the interactions and messages. Then asking yourself, “what did I do wrong?” Before I got blocked, I sent a simple message asking for communication only to never hear back from the person.
Trust me, it’s not easy to continue on with life because one moment you’re talking, laughing, and not realizing that this person brought out a side of you that you didn’t even know you had.
What hurts even more is the fact that you get asked to be their girlfriend only for them to turn around and block you out of the blue. All because you asked for communication.
Unfortunately, people getting ghosted by someone they care about happens more often than we actually think. But not many people talk about it. According to AI Girlfriend Coach, “82% of millennial women and 71% of millennial men have experienced ghosting on dating apps.”
This means that getting ghosted is becoming more common than we think.
But how can one learn about letting go of what could have happened? You constantly hear people telling you to “move on, nothing even happened,” or “yeah it stings but you have to move forward,” or “you’ll find someone better.” But sometimes what people don’t understand is what you felt in that moment for that person. The happiness, the feeling of “finally, I got the guy!”
Only to feel like a bucket of ice cold water was dumped on you.
Personally, my mind blocked everything out, and it just felt like it was all just a dream. I found myself pretending like it never happened.
They say that the best form of therapy is to talk it out. Whether it’s to your friends or family. I am beyond grateful that I have my friends and family being there for me.
It’s not easy, trust me. One day you feel okay and like yourself, but then there are those days where you just don’t want to deal with anything and you feel off. There are times where you randomly get hit with a wave of “what ifs.”
I was able to learn that sometimes life brings to you someone who you thought will be there for you, be your partner, your best friend. Only for them to be the lesson that you didn’t know they would be.
Have you ever been ghosted? If so, how did you handle it? Let us know @HerCampusSJSU!