How to Get Over an Ex, Hook Up, or Crush

How do you get over that high school sweetheart? That college hook up? The kid who sits in front of you in art class? Easiest answer: time. Don’t worry, listed below are a few tricks you can get through the time.

1.     Delete. 

I know you want to see what’s up with their life, and see if he is still thinking about you, but the easiest way to get over someone is if you don’t constantly see his or her face 24/7. So delete those pictures, delete them from your friends list, and delete that number. Sounds impossible? Have your friends take your phone and completely erase his or her information. There is even an app for it! Eternal Sunshine removes unwanted status updates in your Facebook feed without deleting him so if you guys magically become friends again you wont have to awkwardly friend him again. Killswitch is another app that deletes anything on your Facebook that your ex is tagged in. What is better than that? Killswitch donates part of the proceeds to the American Heart Association.

2.     Go out at your own pace. 

Some people feel like they need to go out in the world right away. You don’t have to. It feels good to distract yourself right away, but you really need to address the issue. Don’t push it aside and pretend your relationship didn’t happen. Have fun with your friends, paint your nails, watch movies, and if you have really good friends vent to them. Once you’re done with all of that go out and have fun. It might be hard at first or the easiest thing in the world. 

3.     Don’t take the time to fight with the ex. 

You might want to talk to him or her, scream at him or her, or maybe just want to hear his or her voice… Don’t. Most people say completely cut them out of you life. It is a lot harder than it sounds. If you want to talk to him just think of the reason you broke up at first. Was it cheating? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Did he or she not respect you? If he or she didn’t respect you then he or she will not magically respect you now. If you just want to talk to him or her ask yourself why. If you feel like your about to call him or her, write down whatever it is that you want to say. It sounds cliché and lame but it helps. You can rip it up after, throw it away, or you can even hide it for a day you think you want to get back together with him or her.

4.     Work on you. It is okay to be sad, cry, and eat a gallon of ice cream, but do not dwell. 

When I get angry or upset I go to the gym and work out my frustration. Working out and eating healthy actually makes you happy because it works out endorphins, which make you happy. Bananas actually have tryptophan and tyrosine, which are found in Prozac to make people happy. If you are not the work out type then perhaps go shopping and buy new clothes, underwear, or backpack. Anything that will make you feel confident and pretty.

5.     Know that you’re not alone. 

You’re at college now and you’re meeting new people every single day. There are thousands of girls and boys that have felt the same way as you. You’re not alone and you will get through this.