Within Hispanic culture it’s very common be expected to date someone from your same culture as well as religion. It’s practically a huge risk and a lot of disapproval when you date someone outside your culture. It’s not easy but it’s definitely doable. Our parents are from different times and tend to be really traditional. Here I am dating someone who is not from my culture, and everything is okay! I love learning about different cultures and different religions as well. When you do something like and are Hispanic you will never hear the end if it.
Don’t get me wrong my parents really like and appreciate my boyfriend but, I definitely have to hear my mothers comments every once in a while. She jokingly likes asking if he speaks Spanish. Every time I have to repeat myself and explain that he doesn’t and that it’s okay not everyone’s first language is Spanish mom!
For people from Hispanic background or culture language is a big thing. At my house I only speak Spanish with my parents and family so I completely understand why it’s a big deal. Another thing my parents love asking in front of people specially is “ y el novio?” ( and the boyfriend. They love asking me where my boyfriend is or what he’s doing. Like parents we have separate lives were not always together. With Hispanic parents they love saying comments such as that one just to see how you reply.
Not only does my mother make snarky remarks about language but, she loves asking me “and where is he from again” she basically loves it when I repeat myself and explain the same thing over and over again. It’s just honestly different times in my opinion there’s nothing wrong with people from different worlds being together. This way I eland about his culture and he learns about mine.
Being Hispanic as well as Catholic comes with a lot of different traditions and different food that I get to share with him and teach him about. It’s not about drowning each and pushing each towards each other’s cultures but about learning about how we grew up and the differences between our cultures. It’s amazing there’s times that we can even agree and find similarities between our cultures.
I think growing up in a Hispanic and more specifically a Mexican household is amazing but I think it’s important and it’s time to share our culture and learn about other different cultures it doesn’t mean we have to loose our roots it means you get to expand your knowledge become more cultured.