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DISCLAIMER: I am fully aware that all humans appreciate, value and strive for different things in any type of relationship. This is written through the eyes of my 20-year-old, New Jersey raised self. Also, I’m far from any type of expert. Just a gal with many experiences, who tends to be the voice of reason for plenty of her friend’s male/female encounters.
Hello all and welcome to your lesson on females.
No GamesMen assume we are these unreadable creatures that love to make things complicated. I don’t know about you, but I have always been one to say it like it is. If you are feeling/aren’t feeling something, say it. If you just want to be a hook up, bring it up. If you want a relationship, make it known. Communication is key. Mystery is fun, but being led on is not.
We Aren’t Damsels in DistressChivalry is dang nice! But us ladies are also very independent! Holding doors, paying for meals, kissing the back of our hands- we love that. However, there is such a thing as “too much of a good thing”. We also don’t need to be spoiled with gifts or swooned over constantly. Tell us how much we mean to mean to you, or that you find us attractive, but not every other word you speak.
It’s a Two Way StreetSomething I cannot stress enough to guys and girls is that relationships are a two way street. Respect, feelings, and actions should always be equal and reciprocated. For instance, if you are getting pissy about something the other is doing, put yourself if their shoes first, or imagine what it would it would be like if YOU were in that situation. Sometimes, seeing things from another perspective makes you come to realizations.
Date Ideas?Honestly, I don’t know what girl wouldn’t be content over a casual trip to chipotle or a late night diner run. If you are into a chick and it’s a special occasion (i.e. a birthday), treat her somewhere a little more high class. I personally love long car rides. Take her to a scenic lookout. During the drive you can bond over music and talk about anything and everything.
In a nutshell: golden rule, plain and simple. Treat females the way you would want to be treated. But also, not like one of your bros.