I’m a newly single girl who just got broken up with by my boyfriend of two and a half years, which was on and off but definitely serious. When I got back to my dorm room from a walk we went on (where he broke up with me), I started bawling my eyes out. I was thinking, “what am I going to do with myself?” and I really thought that was game-over for me.
I’m 19 years old, and after two hours of some solid crying, I thought to myself, “yeah, my life is definitely not over,” and I picked myself up out of bed and sat in front of my mirror. I used to think about how my life would be if I married him, if we had kids together, and shit like that. We even talked about how beautiful our kids would be. I realized through some self-reflection that I am worth so much more than what my ex had to offer. I am my own human being! I am worthy of a love even better than the love he showed me.
So, I drew some eyebrows on, did some mascara, and took some baller selfies. I am beautiful and powerful by myself, and the complements and comments from some boy (who has no interest in my passion for beauty anyways) shouldn’t be a factor in my worth! I also deleted all my photos of him from my camera roll, Snapchat memories, and Instagram. Rid yourself of those lingering pictures that bring back memories and make you sad! You can do it. You’ll feel a lot better.
He broke up with me because we’re “different.” And now I get that. He wanted me to be more interested in the work he did for the company he worked for, and I just wasn’t interested in that crap, honestly. Couldn’t fake it; we are definitely different. It was only when he broke up with me that I could see that I loved him more than he loved me. And that hurts. When you get broken up with, you have to realize that the pain you’re experiencing now is temporary, and you are still your strong, independent self that can bounce back from this! I knew I would be okay, and that’s what kept me going through those lurking thoughts of times with my ex. Do something with your friends or your family, get some ice cream, cry it out, and move on with your own beautiful life!
My ex broke up with me only a month and a half ago, and I feel like I’ve seen myself grow so much in that time. It takes time to process a breakup. It takes time and a lot of thought and reflection to realize that he probably wasn’t the best for you anyway. Come on now. There are so many people in America that will definitely love me more than my ex, so many people in Europe, Asia, South America; how could I think that this guy is definitely the one? You have to have faith that there will be better guys out there that will treat you better than your past relationships.
Besides, I already met a guy at a bar who is way sweeter than my ex and like, praises me for real. Beat that.