Here goes nothing.It is a great mystery why we go back to our exes.
Me. I go back to my ex because there’s a history. Don’t get me wrong, I love him. I’ll always love him. And I’m not saying our history triumphs our love. Well, maybe I am. But, I guess at the end of the day- our history is what fosters my love for him. Does that make sense?
You should get back together with your ex because you regret it, you regret breaking up. You should get back together with your ex because you both are ready to tackle the obstacles that led to your break-up. You should get back with your ex because he makes you happy, because you miss him, because you genuinely cannot imagine your life without him.
You should get back together with your ex, if you both believe that the relationship will be stronger. If you both are willing to express past mistakes. If you both are willing to own past mistakes.
Not because there’s a history.
It’s an excuse. Not a valid reason.
If you walk away from a relationship, it does not mean that you mustregret and take back every single hour, day, month or even year that you spent together. It does not mean that all those memories mean nothing. Memories never die.Though the memories fade, they rest inside a special chamber within your heart forever. And within time, you start to look forward to new memories, new, exciting memories. New, exciting memories with new, exciting people, a new, exciting person.
Don’t be so quick to forget- there was a reason you broke up with your ex. Think about that reason. Think about all the reasons that made you want to break up with him. You didn’t just wake up one day and realize you want the person who your whole world orbits, out of your life. You took time to think about the break-up.
Trust me, I really do hate being blunt. I’m more of a sugarcoat the truth and be as passive aggressive as possible person.
But, I’ve learned way too many times that history is not a good enough reason to get back together with your ex (as much as I would like it to be). I know that there’s good times- there’s moments that still catalyze a storm of butterflies in your stomach, oh and there’s magical movie scenes when he kisses you and fireworks appear out of thin air- “happily ever after” kind of moments.
But, take a second to reflect the bad times too. I know they hurt but think about them. Think about the times he hurt you. Think about the moments that aren’t shown in movies- the real moments, not the fairytale ones.
Someone wise once said, “The love of your life usually comes after the mistake of your life.” And gosh, I really hope this is true.
But the funny thing about mistakes is- when you keep making the same mistake over and over again, it’s no longer a mistake. It’s a habit.
By mistakes, I hope you all realize I’m referring to exes. But, I think I made that clear.