If you’re human, it’s quite possible you’ve gone through a breakup with a significant other. Or even worse, you’ve gone through a “breakup” with a friend. You seem as if you tried everything you possibly could to keep those relationships and friendships going, but your efforts just didn’t work out. At the end of those relationships, you feel sad and as if you could never love a human being again. You might cry yourself to sleep a few nights and that’s okay, but I want to remind you why breaking up with someone could actually be a blessing in disguise.
1. Sometimes, it seems like losing someone could mean losing yourself in the process. Avoid this because you are the sun, the moon and the whole universe. Do not let one person define the depths in which you see yourself because you radiate a beautiful light. I guarantee there will be other friends, boyfriends, and girlfriends, but you only get one you. You are wonderful.
2. Those friends who you lose along the way are not the ones who were going to stay forever. I know this sounds cliché, but there will be people who you were just not destined to stay friends with for eternity. Those people might take a piece of your heart with them, but don’t let them have the whole thing.
3. If you lose someone, chances are there’s someone else waiting for you just around the corner. It will take time. Learn to love yourself. Soon enough, you will find that God’s plan for you will lead you to someone who makes your life worth living. You will find that this person helps you shine and will play a part in your life without taking over your universe.
4. You have a life to plan. Don’t worry about the people who have taken different paths than you, and definitely don’t try to persuade them to join your path if they don’t want to contribute. Sometimes, we forget that we are in control of ourselves and it’s important to see yourself as sitting in the driver’s seat of your own car.
5. Don’t worry, because everything will work out and you’ll find yourself with so many opportunities. So what if a single person doesn’t want to be part of that? You will prosper and thrive on your own, and that’s okay. Because I know that things will work out in the long run and you can tell your old self, “Told you so” and maybe even find the Christina to your Meredith!