Are you a little lost?
Just so happens you’re in the right place. Welcome. Greetings. Let’s be lost together.
Hi. My name is Mackenzie. I’m a freshman in college. Yeah let me stop there. I’m in that phase where I have no idea what I’m going to do with my life. And yes I’ve completely accepted this. Sometimes, if not most of the time, like every other college student, I lack motivation to study. I have the mindset that the occasional L, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Haha jokes on me. The occasional L’s eventually add up. But no need to worry. C’s get degrees…right? Okay stay on track Mackenzie. And that brings me back around to today’s topic- the lost phase.
I think it’s normal to be a little clueless in life. What’s tomorrow going to bring? Who knows? Where will you be in ten years? No idea.
But, those questions are totally different from: What do you want tomorrow to bring and where do you picture yourself in ten years?
Yeah I know. A little corny. But, it’s the truth.
So, I’m telling you it’s okay to be the in the lost phase. It’s okay to be lost in the lost phase. In fact, maybe it’s exactly where you’re supposed to be.
You are on the right path. You have goals and dreams.
1- You worry less about what others think of you: There was a time in your life that you obsessed over what people thought of you. How you looked. What you ate. Grades. Relationships. Everything. But, you have now mastered the art of self-reliance and independence. No one, not anyone’s judgment or cruel criticism, can tear you down.
2- You trust few people: As you have grown older, the group of people you surround yourself with, has become smaller and smaller. Time shows true colors. Time has revealed who is truly by your side.
3- You have learned to love your mistakes: Mistakes are a simplistic part of life. You do not let your mistakes define you. You do not let your mistakes hold you back from being the best you, you can be. You have learned that mistakes only make you human- and they only make you better than yesterday.
4- You are so afraid of losing what you have: your heart drops. It shatters into a million pieces when you think that something you care so deeply for, whether it be a relationship or new adventure, can be gone forever. It’s a good thing. The fear. It’s a good thing. It means what you have is worth fighting for, it means what you have is special.
5- You understand that long-term goals take time: Everyday you better yourself. You push yourself and understand that with hard work comes success. Long-term goals are exactly what they sound like: long-term.
6- You find peace in being alone: You used to believe that being alone meant a sheltered world of darkness and yes, loneliness. But, as you have grown, you have learned that there is peace that accompanies one’s lonesome. It is a time that you can reflect thoughts and detox.
7- You are genuinely happy for the success of others: There was a time in your life that you envied the success of others. Oh to be so young and foolish again. You are happy to hear that those around you are thriving, and cannot wait until it’s your turn to shine.
8- You have let go of the past: The past used to eat you alive. Now, you walk with a spunk of confidence. You have slowly, but surely learned that although the past does not define who you are, it is part of your story. You have taken past obstacles and traumas and used them to better you. They have increased your self-worth.
9- The unknown doesn’t scare you as much as it used to: Not knowing. It used to scare you. But now you embrace it. You have realized that there is not a definite answer to every obstacle you may face in life. And you have realized that’s okay. Tomorrow is filled with surprises. The future is written with mysterious adventures and opportunities. You have learned that the unknown is out of your control.
10- You follow your heart: (Most important) You are finally letting yourself feel. You have finally stopped listening to the voices inside your head. You are beginning to trust your heart. You are doing what feels right. You have let go of your insecurities and began to love them.