Lately, you hear more about whose sleeping with who, rather than who they last dated. Our generation of women, the millennial generation, seems to have opted for less commitment; choosing casual flings in place of a real relationship. But why wouldn’t we? With an emphasis on independence and a career, no one has time for the whole package. So we are changing the rules and lowering the standards of dating. When we are asked out on a date it is no longer the “traditional date: with a romantic gesture followed by a goodnight kiss on the porch. These days, the idea of a “date” seems to be lost, and technology has turned a grand gesture into something so simple and casual. We women seem to be perfectly content with receiving a “let’s meet up at the bars” text. More than content actually; something about the laid back text seems to excite us. So we go out, get a little drunk & flirty and take the boy home. Odds are he never calls. Or, he calls, but it’s at 2am – which we know is a bad sign if we want to date him. But who said anything about dating? We want spontaneity, commitment free and alcohol filled flings. After a few too many heartbreaks, we millennials, have decided to avert the old dating norms. We have chosen to indulge in physical pleasure all while avoiding the emotional risks. But if we are just pretending to not care in order to skip the heartbreak, we are risking everything anyways; because truthfully, there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care. The possibilities for women our age have never been so infinite. We have come into our own and realized we don’t need to settle down so quickly – we want to take these years for everything they’re worth. We want to travel, be adventurous and risk everything (including our feelings). And so what if we “screw boys like whores on tequila” for a little bit? How can we commit to someone else when we are still finding out who we are? As the idea of monogamy and courtship seem to fade, the new millennial generation is dealing with a whole new type of dating. Being pioneers of this new trend, we seem to be making the rules up as we go. But is this ever confusing, millennial dating method our future, or our demise?
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SCAD chapter.