For years I have tried to fathom why my previous relationships have not worked out and with every ending, I couldn’t help but blame myself. I convinced myself that I was the problem because it’s so easy to blame yourself for your failed relationships. In these cases, ladies, it is crucial for you all to know you are NOT the problem. When relationships fail, they fail for a reason. In my case, although it is very hard to see sometimes, it is because I deserve more. You need to know your own self-worth and know what you deserve and what you don’t. I’ve noticed that some girls jump from relationship to relationship without even taking a minute for themselves to breathe. Let me tell you ladies, that is the most important part. It is hard to not get discouraged when things don’t go your way, trust me, I know. However, something I’ve learned in my previous experiences is that in order for me to love and be loved by someone, the first thing I need to do is love myself. It is so common nowadays for young woman to get discouraged about themselves, talk bad about themselves and not show themselves the love that they deserve.
I came across a quote that really struck me: “You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people.” After reading this, I immediately had a rush of names going through my head of all the people I gave my love so willingly too that didn’t deserve it. Along with that, it also made me upset with myself because if I were to just take a step back and take time to give myself the love that I give so willingly to other people, I would’ve saved myself from a countless amount of heartbreaks.
When you are in need of love, look in the mirror and tell the person staring back at you that you love them. Focus on yourself and everything else will fall into place. It is hard ladies, I know, but it is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Give the love you freely give to others to yourself and I promise you, it will make a difference in your life. Once you fall in love with yourself, you will find someone who truly appreciates you, rather than finding someone to compensate for your lack of self-love. Every single one of you are beautiful and worth so much and it is time for you to be your true love.
For my ladies in relationships, this goes for you as well. While being in a relationship, I think some fail to realize that you still need to be your number one priority and take time to be with yourself. You need to love yourself just as much, if not more than the person that you are with. It is important for you all to be body-positive, hype yourself up and give yourself talks about why you love yourself. From now on, I challenge you all to do so. Be comfortable with yourself and the body you are in; dance in the mirror, have a photoshoot or even just talk to yourself. Tell yourself what you deserve and what you want and make it happen. Know that you being you is the best superpower you have, because nobody else has it.
With all my love,
Wendy ?