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Learning to Give Myself Time: My First Real Lesson in College

Jersey Gamet Student Contributor, St. Bonaventure University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SBU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

I am the type who has always thought that things wouldn’t take much time and that I can do everything all at once, such as when it comes to making friends or adjusting to new places and schedules. However, I am slowly learning that I need to be able to give myself time.

When I first came to college, I thought that within the first week or two, I would have made friends and not miss home. That was not the case, though. It took me almost a month to make friends, and I have gone home almost every single weekend because I miss home so much.

Since this is not what I wanted to happen, I think of myself as having failed my goal when this is not the case. I simply have given myself too much to accomplish and too little time to accomplish it. I compare myself to others more than I should, and it makes me feel bad about myself.

However, I have slowly come to realize that not making friends quickly and missing home so much is a normal thing. I have learned that my emotions about missing home are not from being a failure, but because I love my family so much and want to be around them since it was normal for all my life.

From talking to other students on campus, I have found that it is pretty normal to have a hard time connecting with people here and making friends because they’re all completely new people. I am glad that I did not make friends really quickly because then I probably wouldn’t have tried to make any other friends, and I could have missed out on all of the amazing people that I have met here.

I am slowly learning to give myself some time to reach my goals and time in between to try to reach the next, because having too much to do can be a lot for anybody. I am still also slowly starting to love the little life that I have made for myself here and love all the wonderful people that I have supporting me.

I have also become even more excited every day that I am here because there is always something new happening and something new to do. I am starting to figure out why I truly am here, past just getting my degree. I am here to have fun, meet new people, and enjoy what life has to offer. It is truly a blessing that we are here and that we get to enjoy life and everything in it.

Jersey Gamet

SBU '29

Jersey Gamet is a student contributor to Her Campus at St. Bonaventure University. She is from Port Allegany, Pennsylvania and is excited for her first semester publishing articles for Her Campus. She is intending to write about things from her life and experiences she has had.

Jersey is a Freshman at St. Bonaventure University majoring in Early Childhood, Childhood, and Inclusive Education with a concentration in English. Aside from being involved in Her Campus she is also involved in Book Club, Latin American Student Organization, WSBU the Buzz, Theatre, Ladies in Faith Together, Empower, and Bible Study.

When Jersey is not in class or at a club meeting she enjoys reading, music, and watching movies. She also especially loves musicals with her favorite being Sound of Music. She also loves being outside with nature, camping with her family, and collecting stamps with her Grandma.