There are things I never got an apology for and probably never will. There are days that lack acknowledgment from people that did not give me the respect I thought I should have been given. It takes a huge toll on me but, not them. So how do we rise above and be like Queen Elsa herself and let it go?
Drop it, leave it, let go. To start, whatever your “it” is, I am truly sorry that it happened to you. It is easy to have the “drop it” step down; meaning the event is not always on your mind. “Leaving it” becomes harder when we focus on the “what” and not the “why.” By this I mean when we are thinking about an event that affected us emotionally we focus on what happened. While this is important, it is even more important to figure out why it happened.
Now, do not over-analyze the event but try to understand why it happened. Do not put blame on yourself, but ask yourself why you felt the way you did about the event. Sit with your emotions…it is okay. Hard, but okay. If you only drop it and do not give yourself time to understand why you are upset, letting go will be harder.
Leaving it and letting it go are very similar. Leaving it is figuring out why. Letting go is being okay with “why”. Like I said, if you have to go through this process you most likely did not get the closure you needed. Therefore, you need to accept the way you feel. Acknowledge yourself.
So you may be reading this asking, why such a mushy gushy article? Do not look at it that way. Look at it as a guide on the art of holding onto yourself. As humans, we know that behavior is a choice that makes forgiveness hard. But, not everyone says or does the right thing. So be the queen you are and let it go.