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How to Determine If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Salisbury chapter.

It’s unfortunate to know that so many people are involved in toxic relationships. Some suffer silently because they are unaware that their romance is detrimental to their health. Others refuse to seek help because they convince themselves that they can’t do any better. Or perhaps the thought of being alone causes distress. Regardless of the reason, everyone deserves a romance built on unconditional love and understanding rather than abuse and deceit. If you have the slightest inclination that your relationship is toxic, it’s important to do whatever is best for your overall well-being.

1.They are constantly trying to control you          

Your significant other shouldn’t try to control your life for their own benefit. It’s emotionally draining, being told you can’t wear certain clothing, or interact with a specific person simply because your SO(significant other) said you couldn’t. It’s never okay to feel pressured to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing.

2.You are constantly being lied to

One of the foundations of a healthy relationship is trust. Once it’s broken it’s difficult to rebuild. Don’t settle for lies, it’s the ultimate level of disrespect.

3.They make everything about them

If they always put their feelings before your own and make you feel guilty for having a concern, this proves they could care less about your emotions. A healthy relationship means listening, and caring about each other’s feelings.

4.They remind you of your past mistakes any chance they get

We all make mistakes. The goal is to grow and learn from them. If you’re actively trying to learn from them, it hurts hearing your SO use the past to attack you.

5. They aren’t there for you emotionally or physically

Trust me, it’s better to be single than alone in a relationship. If they’re absent for long periods of time (excluding long distance and busy work schedules) you shouldn’t waste your time. The same applies if they don’t give you the attention you deserve.

7. They are extremely jealous

We all feel insecure sometimes but if they’re always complaining and spewing false accusations it can lead to even worse circumstances. Imagine having your phone checked or told you can’t go somewhere without them.

 

 

Anjelique Wilson is a senior at Salisbury University, majoring in Communication arts. She loves musical theater and hopes to obtain a career in the arts. You'll often catch her singing along to musicals and watching her favorite youtubers. She joined her campus to be involved with a platform that allows her to freely express herself
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Jeremie Davis

Salisbury '18

Jeremie Davis is an ambitious eighteen year old who has plans to change the world. While writing for her high school newspaper, she discovered her passion for writing, in which she contributed numerous works to the award winning newspaper. Jeremie also has a strong passion for Theater. She has been acting since she was ten years old. Jeremie is currently attending Spelman College in Atlanta, Georgia, where she is majoring in Early Child Education with a minor in Theater and Journalism. Along with writing for Her Campus, Jeremie is apart of Tiger TV, a newly produced student-run news show, located on Morehouse College's campus. After two years Jeremie plans to go to Yale School of the Dramatic Arts where she will earn her Doctorate’s Degree in Fine Arts. In her spare time, Jeremie enjoys watching Netflix, belting out show-tunes, biking, and hanging with family and friends. Her ultimate goal in life is to become either a successful actress or a news correspondent in the entertainment world. She lives by the motto “If you work hard, you get to play hard.”