Lately Cupid has been brutal to the people surround me, for the past week I have heard too many broken hearts. This morning I was told that a close family of mine finally divorced her husband after nearly a decade of the lawsuit. Lately Cupid has been brutal to the people surround me, for the past week I have heard too many broken hearts. Being the emotional person as I am, I couldn’t help but to stop and really think about how a relationship can damage us when it comes to an end.Â
Is it really the relationship or our partners that is hurting us or is it just us? It seems like in a lot of times we were usually our only bully, torturing our own mind. I am not at all saying this trying to blame on anyone in any relationship, sometimes love ends in the least expected and wanted way and we will just have to accept that it is simply life. However, we are usually the ones who is putting on extra baggages for ourselves in additional to the physical process which we are already carrying after a break up. I have had friends telling me that they don’t know what to do if their partner is breaking up with them because their partner mean everything to their world. If my opinion is consider, I always think it is problematic in a relationship when someone else is being prioritized over one’s own life. Personally I am a big believer of being a selfish bitch, I believe that it is never worth wasting energy to staying in a relationship if the cost of maintaining it is to lose your own value, more over our own self.
While It is likely for a lot of people to see a break up as a major crisis which can be applied when all sorts of reality strikes in(especially when it comes to custody or shared property), I would still like to believe that despite all the reality hardness your partner leaving you is never the end of the world, is I may speak I believe that nothing is the end of the world (except when the earth literally exploded).
It is all about perspective. If you are reading this while going through an ugly break up and thinking the worst of the situation, I would really like you to stop and take a moment to think: to think about how much less critic you are giving yourself for thinking the break up can actually knock you down; to think that how much more you deserve than being treated this; to think how much more you deserve than to think that you are hopeless in the situation that you don’t think love will ever come in to you life again; to think so many more about life, about your friends and family who loves you so much and are supporting you, about all the possibilities you are holding in the future. This theory does not only apply to relationship but to life it self as well: Sometimes when you think very thing is terrible, it is really not all that, it might be bad in fact things might be so bad you makes you over look all the good things in the life. Sometimes all you need to do is to take a step back and change your perspective. So now look back to your situation again, is it really that bad?Â