Tips On Getting Over A Breakup

 Breakups are hard. But here is a bunch of things that have made me feel a little better!

1. Empathizing with my ex

Now- this one can go both ways. In my first relationship, empathizing with my ex was my downfall because he was manipulative in the way that he would make me think things were my fault. So, when I did empathize with him I was just playing myself as I’d agree with him that I was really the one making our relationship worse. 

However, in my last breakup, empathizing really helped me understand why he broke up with me. I realized he is a human, like anyone else, and somebody who was going through a lot of very difficult things. Not everyone handles stress well, and although he dealt with this by cutting me off, people can’t always be perfect and I understood this was his way of resolving his problems. Although it still isn’t justifiable in my head, it was better for me to think of him as a flawed human than to just write him off as “oh, that asshole,” or think he actually had malicious intent. In the end, he was just a person afraid to commit who was extremely overwhelmed. 

1. Eating healthy!

NOTHING in this world will make you feel better than a post-breakup glo-up. I bought lots of fruit and salads instead of eating junk (well… maybe some halo top), and really tried to focus on healing my body from within. Every day since I’ve been eating better, I’ve really felt better, and on the days that I’ve felt miserable I can think to myself well at least my skin is clear and my body’s lookin’ like I want it! 

1. Hanging out with friends

I know this one seems basic, but isolation is not the answer! Surround yourself with people you love and it’ll feel a little less like everything is terrible. People will surprise you with their kindness during hard times if you reach out. Friends can be family after all, and just a quick “hey, how are you doing?” call can make you feel a lot better. 

1. Re-evaluating your personal views on love

I know it’s easy to just say “I hate love!” and write off being in a relationship ever again. But when you calm down, it’s good to realize that this one breakup isn’t a reflection of all relationships. Not everyone will evade your trust, and if you are a hopeless romantic and believe in true love… don’t lose that hope! It makes your life just a little happier to have these beliefs, and you shouldn’t let one person take it away from you. 

These are the main things that helped me, and I hope they help you out too! 

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