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You’re Hot. Six Steps to Believing It.

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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Rutgers chapter.

When you glance into the mirror, you’re supposed to see your reflection.  Instead, you see a slightly crooked nose, a blemish on your chin, and 10 pounds too many.  It seems that becoming overly self-critical has developed as the new fad, preventing young women from seeing their true beauty and loving themselves. We all have our own tiny flaws that we may think are obnoxiously obvious to the world, yet in reality, they are barely discernable to others. So, why choose to pick yourself apart in the mirror, when you can choose to see someone beautiful?  Looking hot begins within yourself. With these 6 steps, you can change the way you see yourself and there is nothing hotter than radiating confidence…

1. Believe in yourself. If you really want a date with the insanely gorgeous guy who sits behind you in Comm. class, you need to believe in yourself.  Why should he want to take you out on a date if you don’t think that a date with him is even possible?  Studies show that self-confidence attracts others as people who are confident in themselves are generally happier people.  Consider your strengths and unique qualities that make you stand out from others.  Believe that what sets you apart from others will lead you to success, because it can! Take pride in yourself, take risks, and be positive. The first step to believing in your “hotness” starts with having a sense of satisfaction with yourself. 2. Smile. We are drawn to others who smile.  We want to be apart of the positive energy that drives a person’s smile.  Frowns and grimaces often push people away.  Happiness attracts happiness, so you will attract other happy people as you flash your pearly whites. 3. Do what makes you happy. Even the First Lady knows that doing what making you happy can make you more attractive. “Throughout my life, I’ve learned to make choices that make me happy and make sense for me. Even my husband is happier when I’m happy” Michelle Obama said.  Make sure that you put yourself on your priority list.  Not to say that you need to constantly be thinking about yourself or ignore the needs of others, but your choices in life need to make you happy.  If you have the choice, why live life unhappy?  Making choices to bring happiness can only boost your mood, which will ripple among the others around you. 4.Reward Yourself. Everyone likes a pat on his or her back once in a while, especially when you have accomplished something while outside your comfort zone.  It is important to remember and acknowledge your accomplishments to motivate yourself to continue finding success!  Say you finally found the nerve to spark up a conversation with the cutie you’ve had your eye on all semester.  That’s great! Now do something to really make yourself feeling fabulous, as you acknowledge your accomplishment. Next time you see him walking on campus, remember your progress in t he situation and you will have the guts to talk to your crush without planning your first sentence in your mind, days before you see him. 5. Be positive. No one wants to be around someone who is drowning in negativity.  Positive energy attracts other positive energy.  Others want to be around people who make them feel good.  Focus on the little, but freaking awesome things that have happened in your life, the day, and the past hour!  Remembering the good in things is uplifting and very attractive. 6. Be yourself. Love yourself and everything that you are. It’s hard for others to love what you hate, so embrace your quirky personality, and your high-pitched laugh.  As fun and fearless actress, Mila Kunis says, “Playing coy is silly.  Speak your mind.  If a man gets turned off, he’s the wrong man.”

Being attractive does not require dramatic changes in how you look like.  Beauty begins with how you see yourself. Remember, bombshells aren’t born, they are created.