Let’s talk about THE college girl canon event…
You’re fresh out of high school, just got to college and it’s a whole-new world. All you know is that you just need to make it to your first frat. You get there, kegs are out, frat guys roaming, sorority girls behind the bar, and cups are getting stacked. You’re feeling the music and thinking that this is a life you can get used to. And then you see him. A frat guy from your favorite frat, staring at you. He’s cute! OMG, he’s coming up to you! Next thing you know, this becomes a 2–3-time thing.
It’s weeks later, no text, no calls. No signals, and he’s not going up to you. No more story liking and definitely no talking. You’re upset and confused. It was going great, what did you do? What is he thinking? Well, I’ll tell you what he’s thinking.
First things first, if you think you can change the way a frat guy thinks, you’re painfully mistaken. Normally, you can’t change the way any man thinks. But a frat guy, they’re a different breed. They are constantly around other guys and their weird thoughts, beer, and the dirt that collects from the ceiling to the floor. This can do one of two things, make them worse with woman, or make them think that their already horrible ways of treating woman, are the right ones. When frat guys approach you, they already know what they want from you, they already have a plan. The objective? Don’t get attached, and don’t let her get attached. Which is why after maybe 2-3 meet ups, you’ll probably never hear from him again. It’s also why he’ll always show minimal effort, why he’ll never come up to you himself again, why he won’t be afraid to be rude and blunt, and why’ll he’ll mainly only text on the weekends.
The key to being a frat guy, is to be nonchalant. So not only will your frat guy be doing all of this because he wants things to go his way, but he’s also doing it because he believes it makes him look cool, Weird, right?
Now I do want to preference by saying, yes, it’s possible for a frat guy to seriously date a girl. But will that girl be you? Probably not, so don’t bank on it. What? I’m just being honest. God only give this battle to its strongest soldiers. Men decide when they want to be ready for commitment, and that takes much longer for frat guys to decide. No, you’re not delusional. You’re a relationship girl, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But if you’re going to be involved with a frat guy, you need to be ready for the lack of commitment and effort.
So, how do you outplay them? There’s only one way, play their own game. There’s nothing a guy hates more than a girl simply not caring. They’re supposed to be the ones who seem like they don’t care, so why does it look like you actually don’t. It confuses them, makes them miss when your attention was on them and not on your own life. He missed when you would leave your friends to go talk and dance with him, when your eyes and smile were directed at him. And now that it’s not, now that he believes you’ve moved on to more important things, he cares. And trust me, once you act like you don’t care, you’ll slowly start to realize that there was no good reason to actually care in the first place. Soon, you’ll be taking his place in the game.
The truth about frat guys? They’re just immature and insecure guys. They literally signed up to be around guys all the time, in dirty and tortuous conditions. They don’t want change, and they don’t want commitment. They want the music, lights, and action.
So, to save you the hassle of going through it, think like a man from the start. Recognize when they’re playing their game and play it better. Don’t make yourself wonder 24/7 what you did wrong, what he’s thinking, and when he’ll text you. There’s no worse way to waste your time. Oh, and to answer that question, no. A frat guy cannot love you more than the party.