Recently Rider Alliance Against Bullying had a table in Daly’s and had students sign a poster saying they were against cyber bullying. This is when I was introduced to a site called CollegeACB.com. Later that night I went onto the site and my response was anger and frustration. I was appalled by the amount of fellow students who had participated on this forum style social site. The things that were said also appalled me. I was surprised at how much was said and how many private secrets/details were just thrown out onto the internet. I thought to myself, “We’re in college, right?” So, for this week I’ve decided to write about cyber bullying. It’s something that everyone should know how to recognize and deal with. Especially since most of today’s socializing is done online.
First, we should start with a definition of what cyber bullying is. Cyber bullying refers to the use of technology to harass or bully someone else. Computers, cell phones, and PDAs are new tools that can be applied to an old practice. Forms of cyber bullying can range in severity from cruel or embarrassing rumors to threats or harassment.
So, how do you deal with cyber bullies?
Save Every Message
You may want to delete the nasty message(s) or text(s), but fight the urge! There may come a time when you need to report the harassment. The day will come when you’ll need this airtight evidence.
Never Participate
Never get more involved than you need to. It may be tempting to fight back, however, just take a step back and breathe. Responding with hostility is more likely to provoke a bully and escalate the situation. Bullies get satisfaction from your response.
Talk to Someone About It
Overlooking the situation may not be the best solution. If the bullying escalates, report the activity to local authorities. Approaching a cyber bully in person may scare them away, however, if the harassment increases, talk to an adult or school authorities. Bullying of any kind is illegal in most states. You can also contact the moderator of the chat room or the person in charge of the website to remove the user or block the IP address of the bully. Because motives vary, solutions do too.
Too many people today have been hurt and affected by cyber bullying. Don’t keep letting these cruel people get away with this. One of your friends could even be a victim who is afraid of telling others about being harassed.
I will end with advice to those who bully others: Be honest to others and yourself. You’re the one who has to live with your choices every day.
How would you deal with cyber bullies?