We all know someone who is constantly with their boyfriend, has isolated themselves from their friends and doesn’t focus on anything but their relationship. We see different relationships play out in this way and we wonder what if you two break up? How does this person only focus on this one area of their life? Little do they know by balancing their life and focusing on all the different aspects of their life they are actually benefiting their own relationship! But the big question we all wonder is HOW?! How can you balance your life while being in a relationship?
First off, know who you were before you began your relationship and don’t stray too far from that. Your values, your personality and how you act shouldn’t change, your boyfriend fell for you because he has liked you as a person from the beginning! Continue to stay true to yourself and know that you don’t have to change for your relationship. There will be times when you want to revolve certain things around your boyfriend, its natural but that doesn’t mean every little thing you do should be revolved around your boyfriend. Remember you still have to be your first priority and should be in a relationship that can add to the happiness you have already brought upon yourself.
Balancing your friends and the boyfriend is a struggle many of us have. You don’t know how much time constitutes to too much time with your boyfriend and before you know it you become somewhat isolated from your friends. Don’t let that happen! Communication is key, make sure you communicate with your friends as well as being able to communicate with your boyfriend. Make sure you have girls’ night where
your boyfriend should also have guys’ night; time apart is a good thing and makes you miss one another looking forward to the next time you spend together. Sometimes we might feel like we are neglecting our boyfriends a little and they deserve a little extra attention, if this is the case have a set date night once a week where you two are completely devoted to one another. Find certain hobbies that you and your boyfriend can do together, yet also have those certain hobbies where you and the girls can have your time as well.
Schedules are tough especially being in college and it’s hard to find time to devote to specific people. Yet a little here and there can go a long way, and as long as you try you should be able to accomplish it. Like with anything else, time management is important and it is difficult to balance many areas of your life. You can combine different areas, combining friend time and boyfriend time can also be beneficial. It helps the people who are most important in your life get to know one another better. This isn’t to say every time you are with your friends bring your boyfriend along but sometimes wouldn’t hurt! Learn how to compromise; comprising is a big part of a relationship. Like any type of relationship you put in the effort hoping that the other person will do the same, which will help your relationship thrive into the best it can be.