So, you’ve been dating your partner for over a year now and want to keep it spicy. Don’t worry, I got you. Every relationship goes through a honeymoon phase that can last up to a year or so, but I’m here to help you carry the honeymoon energy into your long-term relationship.
Try new things
Don’t be scared to try new things and switch it up. Go to a new or different restaurant, find a new sex position to try, play a new game that gets you thinking with your partner — there are so many different things you can try. We’re too young to settle and get too comfortable with our partners. Do not fall into comfortability. Yes, you should feel comfortable with your significant other, but getting too comfortable is dangerous because sometimes effort can be lost when we get too comfortable. You always have to switch it up to avoid this. Trying new things is so important when keeping the spark alive because it takes away the same old and predictability.
Stress the little things
It is all about the little things. Put the effort in. Please, I’m begging you. I’ve seen the slow fade out of a relationship too many times, don’t let that be you. If your significant other tells you about something they are excited about or stressed about, ask them about it later to show that you care. Write a love letter to your partner, buy a bouquet of flowers or chocolate, or get them their favorite drink. It can be something that takes you 10 minutes or less but means the world to your partner. This leads me to my next point.
LISTEN!!!
Woah have I seen and experienced partners that straight up do not listen. It is the worst. Active listening is the key to long-term relationships. Make sure your significant other feels heard because that is what relationships are all about. Nobody gets into a relationship to not feel listened to. Put the phone down and ask follow-up questions. Take the time to hear your partner out, especially when there is conflict. Even though it can be challenging, listen to their side and respect how they feel and why they feel that way. Do not get defensive, just listen. Conflict is resolved 100X faster when people just listen.
I wish you all the best in your relationship endeavors. Make sure to try new things, stress the little things, and listen to your partner. These are my biggest tips if you are looking to keep that honeymoon phase spark alive.