With the holiday season rapidly approaching, some of us girls are instinctively inclined to mourn the horrific realization that we have no boyfriend to worry about buying a gift for or to throw our welcome home parties, while some of us are elated at the long awaited reunion with our hometown beaus. That’s right, ladies. You know what I’m referring to…the ever complicated, ever romantic long distance relationship (which I prefer to refer to as LDR). Here are a few guidelines toward a successful reunion with your love for the happiest time of year.
Do: Tell him how much you’ve missed him.
You’ve barely seen each other in months. Make sure he knows how good you feel to finally be standing in the same room.
Don’t: Recount all your drunken weekends.
He doesn’t mind you having fun, but meeting the captain of the hockey team at the Creamery and having him invite you and your friends to their house for a party will be sure to unsettle him instantly. There’s nothing wrong with you having innocent friendly relationships with (hot) other guys, but he does not need to hear the details.
Do: Recount the few nights you stayed in because you missed him.
Because, some nights, no amount of drinking and partying with your girlfriends will ever compare to snuggling with your BF.
Don’t: Force him to become a member of your family.
I know you want to show him off to your family members at holiday festivities, but him spending separate time with his own family is just as important.
Do: Gift smart.
Pay close attention to the offhanded comments he made about a watch he loved or a cologne that was too expensive for him to buy for himself and surprise him with it. Show him you really do pay attention to his wants.
Don’t: Talk about how hard it’s going to be when you leave each other again.
Live in the now. Enjoy the time you have together instead of worrying about the time you’ll spend apart. LDR’s only work when the little time you have to spend together makes being apart worth it.
Do: Plan your time together carefully.
I know you have to squeeze in some time for the family and for your friends from home, but don’t make him feel like he’s last on your list of people to see. Plan out your dates and maximize the short time you have together.