It’s an age-old saying that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but let’s be honest, it’s frustrating.
The idea that the only way a person can show that they think highly of you is to copy your style, mannerisms, or any other facet of your life is a RIDICULOUS notion. Instead, maybe a person who admires you could write a handwritten letter? A long-form text about the impact someone has had on your life? Hey, maybe even a nice hug.
Now don’t get confused–a person can be inspired by another person without much, or any harm, in the end. The difference is that when you’re inspired by a person you adapt what you like about them and make it work for you. Say you like the way someone dresses; Don’t copy their clothing item per item, instead, use other pieces to have a similar silhouette or utilize the same colors and tones in your own way.
The idea of imitation isn’t exclusive to just clothing, though. A person copying another’s personality also happens more than often. This goes beyond the natural morphing of vocabulary that happens in a friendship. I’m talking full-fledged character impersonation. They’re a whole new person–they’re you.
It’s frustrating because on a human level you’re an individual. Your style and quirks are what you’ve developed to be the best presentation of “you” to the world, so when someone duplicates that it feels as if you’re losing your individuality. It can be extremely angering and even more so, frustrating. It also can be extremely awkward to address as you can come off pompous or entitled. That then leads to a cycle of resentment and anger, the likes of which only affect a singular person–you.
It’s important to realize that you’re only hurting yourself by not addressing the person who may be copying you, and although it may be hard, communicate with your friend. Address the situation in a respectful manner, and at the end of the day if they don’t at least try to understand your point of view, maybe they shouldn’t be that close in your personal life anyway.