Breaking up may seem like the end of the world to some. You lose what has been familiar to you for so long and that fear of loneliness is just daunting. Friends will be there for you in your mourning process, yet can your ex be there as well? Some may find it impossible to stay friends with their ex after a break up, however it can be done. You had to become friends with them before you started dating and that’s where you need to get back to. It will be hard at first, but with these 9 steps your friendship will be stronger than any relationship:
1. Plan Special Days
Just because you are broken up doesn’t mean you still can’t hang out. Plan a day with your ex just to go see a movie or watch TV. You won’t lose their comfort and still remain close to them.
2. Start Talking To New People….If You Are Ready
REBOUNDS ARE A NO NO. However, if you’re truly comfortable to get back in the game….then go for it. You can’t lose anything, right? It will give you a fresh perspective on life and help you understand why you and your ex are just friends.
3. Don’t Text All Time
If you still text like you have never broken up, then it will just be extremely hard for you to let go. This will be hard to do at first but it will get better in time.
4. Talk To Your Friends
It may be the case that your friends have become friends with your ex as well. Simply tell them not to bring you around each other when you need time apart. This will give you time with your friends during your journey of healing.
5. Don’t Mention New People
If you start talking to other people- keep it to yourself. If you truly care about your ex, just don’t tell them for a while. Let them heal, too.
6. Still Make Them Smile
Send them things that only you two would understand. This will truly make them smile from ear to ear.
7. Keep Them Updated
Tell them how the family is doing. Tell about yourself and your life. This will keep them in the now and always knowing you are okay.
8. Always Have Their Back
No matter what happens, let them know you are always available for them.
9. Still Tell Them, I Love You
Not the puppy dog love, but the love that two humans who care each other have. Just because you aren’t in relationship anymore doesn’t mean you don’t care or still love that person. That person will always have a special place in your heart and you can’t change that.
Losing a boyfriend or girlfriend can be hard, but with these 9 steps your friendship with your ex will be so successful it hurts!