Sexual Harassment and abuse is one of those hush-hush topics that’s often swept under the rug in today’s society. It is easy for others to look past the incidents as if they never happened but as a victim, it is not that simple. Carrying that kind of trauma can be very difficult for a person. Hardships are never forgotten or moved on from, we just learn how to do with them and grow stronger. Do you have a friend that has been a victim of sexual abuse? Here are some safe ways you can support and be there as a friend.
All Ears
The first and simplest way to support is to listen. Every person likes to feel what they’re saying has value and is being heard by another. Letting someone express how they feel and what has occurred will feel like a weight has been lifted off their shoulders. It shows that they feel comfortable enough to confide in you. Lending an ear can make a huge difference.
Speaking Out
Victims of sexual abuse are often embarrassed or ashamed of what has happened to them making it hard to bring their situation to the light. Encourage the person to come forth with information about their occurrence. Encourage does not mean volunteer or pressure information. The RIGHT time to speak to a professional or third party is if a victim is continuing to put themselves in danger or experiencing signs of self-harm.
Get the Facts
Try searching online or pick-up a pamphlet about sexual abuse. Learning more about the topic can help you further relate to what a friend is going through. Knowledge is power!
No Judgment Here
Sharing a story about sexual abuse can be a terrifying task within itself. Being afraid of another’s reactions can be even scarier. Try to avoid asking too many detailed questions, cautious of your language, or voicing your personal opinion on the story. Most importantly BELIEVE what the person is saying.
You’ve Got a Friend in Me
Just like any hard times in our lives, it is going to take some time for a friend to move past and accept what has taken place. The relationship between you and this person will be different for a while. Encourage them to feel safe when going out in public, respect their privacy, and try to make the environment around them a positive one. Sometimes a friend can feel awkward like their not sure what do or say. Simply continue the qualities that made you the great friend you were before, but always be aware.