Sometimes relationships just aren’t meant to be, but losing your best friend can be absolutely heartbreaking, no matter what the circumstances are. Here are 7 tips to help you get over losing a best friend:
Accept the fact that people change.
You and your former best friend might be completely different people than you were last year. Just remember that they have lost something great and that it’s their own loss.
Give yourself time to mourn the loss; don’t try to pent up all your feelings.
Losing a best friend is a major change in your life, and it’s going to take time to adjust. Do whatever it takes to get out the sadness, anger, or disappointment you feel because harboring that negativity will just hurt you in the long run.
Set boundaries with any mutual friends.
Don’t make ultimatums with them just because you and your former best friend have ended your friendship. They should be able to be friends with both of you and not have to choose between one or the other.
Do not check their social media to “see how they’re doing.”
It will only hurt you and bring back feelings you are trying to overcome. It is best to just completely cut yourself off from the person. Delete their number from your phone, unfollow them on social media, and resist checking to see what they’re doing. If they didn’t want to put in the effort to be your friend then they do not deserve the time of day from you.
Do things to help you get over your loss.
By doing constructive things to pass the time you will notice the pain lessen. Pick up a new hobby, try something you’ve always wanted to do, or join a new club. As much you loved your friend, time will help heal your wounds. Eventually they will feel so distant that you won’t even give a second thought about them.
Try getting to know some of your current friends better.
There may be someone you’ve been hanging out with who is totally best friend material, but you were too busy with your former best friend to notice. Spend some more time with them and see what happens.
Remember that this isn’t the end of the world.
Life will go on, no matter what happens. Your former friend left for a reason and things weren’t meant to work out between you two. You have bigger and better things ahead, and you will meet new people who will want to put in the effort to be your friend.