Finding the Upside to Having a “Crazy” Roomate

     
Girls, beware! Before you know it that new roommate you were so excited to meet could leave you disappointed, puzzled, and resorting to the only word that comes to mind to describe her and the whole situation: crazy. Take it from me, someone who fell victim to a situation like this – it is not fun! I feel you, I really do. And I am not bashing girls as I’m sure there are plenty of guys out there who are as equally absurd,  maybe just in different ways. No, this right here goes out to any of you reading this who have done nothing wrong, yet find yourself in an intensely awkward and uncomfortable type of situation with your roommate. There is a silver lining… But, first things first. Let’s vent.
 
               It was the second semester of my first year of college and I was beyond excited to meet my new roommate. However, those hopes soon came crashing down within the first two weeks of class. It all started one night when I was attempting to fall asleep and my roommate came barging into the room at 1:00 a.m., leaving the door wide open allowing the hall lights to flood our room. If that wasn’t enough to disturb my sleep, she flicked on all her lamps so she could simply sit on her bed and text her friends from her phone. After asking and being ignored multiple times whether she could close the door, I crawled out of my warm and cozy bed to shut the door myself. Soon enough, as I reached the door she told me how I “disgust” her (a little extreme if you ask me, I mean I was only closing a door–its not like I was leaving dirty underwear around the room). Soon enough, more choice words were exchanged until the situation finally ended with her leaving the room. Relieved, because I thought I could finally get to sleep.
 
               I crawled back into bed only to have her barge in ten minutes later, flipping all the lights on yet again, while complaining about me to someone who was standing in our doorway. As if this night wasn’t crazy enough, things escalated even farther. My roommate actually proceeded to not only grab her blankets and pillows, but with the help of the girl from the hallway, also grabbed her mattress from the bed frame and moved her ENTIRE bed down the hall to another room. At this point there was not much I could do but sit in my own bed and chuckle at the situation that just occurred. Did my roommate really just get so mad at me for shutting our door at 1:00 a.m. that she felt compelled to move her entire bed down the hall? Yes, that really just happened. But, it gets even better. As if this whole night wasn’t enough. The next day I came home from class to find a hand written note sitting on top of my TV. I unfolded it and the first line basically said, “this is why you suck…” followed by a list filling up the entire front and back of the paper.
              
              
I’ve spent more than enough time talking about this negative living situation and I do have a point I am getting at. The moral of the story: You can in fact get stuck living in a tiny dorm room with someone who doesn’t have the slightest respect for you. You might not understand it and chances are you definitely can’t change it. There is no quick fix and you can’t just throw a tantrum and get a new room with a new roommate. But it’s really not the end of the world! I was stuck having to deal with this horrible situation yet, I found ways to make the best of the situation. My new found hate of being in my dorm room just gave me motivation to get out onto campus and meet lots of new and exciting people, not to mention it gave me motivation to get out of bed and not sleep through class in the mornings!

     So girls, even if you have that roommate who makes you want to never come home, there is an upside to every situation. Get involved in groups around campus, get out and meet new people, and take the time to find a sweet studying place on campus. Situations like this may happen for a reason. You can’t always choose your situations in life but you can choose how you deal with them. Whining and being miserable all the time?… doesn’t sound like much of a solution. Now is the chance to put your maturity to the test and improve your temper and tolerance for dealing with “crazy” people! I have a feeling people like this won’t just magically disappear here in college. They’re in the real world too and we have to learn the right way to handle similar situations.
Eventually you’ll do what I did and just learn to laugh at the situation. And if all else fails, when it’s all over, a memory of a crazy roomie always makes for a good story.