I have a terrible gag reflex. In high school I used to throw up when I brushed my teeth (sad I know). So before I gave my first blow job I was TERRIFIED. My friends literally made bets on whether I would throw up or not (luckily, I didn’t). As I got more used to it, my fears of throwing up on a penis diminished completely and now I barely gag at all. Since I’m basically a blow job expert now, I decided to throw together some tips on how to give a killer blow job. These are particularly good ideas for people with a penchant for gagging. Some of these tips might be a bit basic, but bear with me. A combination of these suggestions is sure to get your man lining up for seconds ;)
1. This should be a given, but never use your teeth. Ever. Just don’t. (I mean, unless your dude is into that.)
2. Use your tongue! A little tongue action can go a long way. If you don’t feel like going too far down for fear of gagging, focus on flicking or swirling your tongue over the tip of his penis. Luckily, the head of a guy’s penis has many nerve endings so this is a great place to give attention to.
3. It doesn’t have to be all mouth! If you suffer from an extra shitty gag reflex or have a small mouth, it’s hard to go too crazy. SO DON’T. Just put the tip in your mouth and your hand around the base and ta-da, easy peasy!
4. Along with the above tip, a penis isn’t naturally a slip n’ slide so you have to get it all wet yourself. If you let some saliva drip out of your mouth to lubricate his penis, you can let your hand do more work without having to put too much of his penis in your mouth.
5. Twisting your hand while you also move it up and down is an easy way to get your man excited. I like to alternate between twisting my hand and not just to mix it up. The combination of my tongue on the tip of his penis and twisting my hand up and down is definitely a great way to get the job done, if you know what I’m sayin’.
6. Eye contact is a must. It might not make it feel way better, but it’s still damn hot for both him and you. It’s obviously a great view for him (I mean, you look hot with his penis in your mouth), as well as for you because you get to see how pleased he looks.
7. Keyword: Balls. Touch them. Lick them. Suck on them. Feels great for him, less likely to make you want to vom! I like to cup his balls while my mouth is busy on his penis; it adds an extra sensation!
8. Mix it up! I like to alternate the speed and/or pressure to keep it interesting. Sometimes I touch his balls, sometimes I go extra low, sometimes I use my hand and sometimes I don’t. The only thing I would say is when he is about to finish, stick with whatever you’re doing. If that’s what’s going to do it for him, why change it up?
9. Don’t be afraid to incorporate some accessories – blind folds are super fun! According to my man, being blind folded gives the illusion that I’m going lower then I actually am. If you have a particularly hard time with your gag reflex, this might be a great idea for you to try. Whenever I used to feel particularly insecure it also kept me from freaking out because I knew I wasn’t being watched. If you are feeling extra adventurous, I’d recommend using a blind fold AND handcuffs.
10. If you are attempting to deep throat or at least go a lot further down than usual, breathing is key. More specifically, breathe out when you go down. Taking a deep breath in and breathing out as I go down is one of the greatest skills I have utilized to prevent myself from gagging. Sometimes it also helps to squeeze my left thumb as well, because that apparently inhibits your gag reflex (although I don’t know what research actually supports that). Never feel obligated to mimic porn and deep throat, seeing as pornography is honestly just a performance, but if it’s a challenge you want to take on, these two tips might do the trick! These techniques have actually allowed me to deep throat, which is something I never thought I’d actually be able to do.
11. Listen to and communicate with him. Make sure to always be attentive to how your he reacts to the different things you try. Not every guy likes the same things, so talking about what he likes or dislikes is helpful so you can both have a great time!
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