Love is a universal language that everyone uses to express themselves. Whether this is through touch, expressions, gift-giving, verbal exchange, or more. Through the usage of these love languages relationships and friendships are able to bloom into long-lasting bonds. To end a week of love following Valentine’s Day and Random Acts of Kindness Week, we asked our members what is there love language? In this article, you will find out what the members of Her Campus at Oswego do to express their love.
Jileiny Padilla:
My favorite acts of service and one I enjoy showing the most, is helping others in any way. One way I help others is by cooking for them. I love cooking so much, and I do it with so much love every time I do it. I always hope that they enjoy it just as much as I do. Generally, anything I can help anyone with makes me happy. If I have the ability to, why not? Essentially, I love being present for others, ensuring they have someone to count on. I understand everyone is going through different battles, but I also know things always get better. If I can be of any service by helping others overcome hardships and challenges I am satisfied with that.
Amanda Pirie:
The love language I tend to show is giving gifts. Whenever I am out and about, my friends are the first thoughts in my mind and I unintentionally buy them things because of it. I have lists in my phone (and you know in my brain) that give me an idea of what they like. I save some of the gifts for when I know they are having a bad day so that I can cheer them up or just as a random gift during the day.
Tess Uline:
My love language is definitely quality time. There will be times where my partner and I are in my room and they’ll be on their phone, so I’ll wiggle my way under their arm and pepper their face in kisses until they pay attention to me. Obviously this doesn’t just go for who I’m dating—if I’m with my friends, we usually end up doing something where we all can talk or focus on one another. I usually suggest a game night for more high-energy nights, or a movie night if we want to spend time together but don’t necessarily want to talk. It’s a really lovely way to get to know one another without tiring ourselves out, and I always end up happy because we spent time together.
Riley Eipp:
My love language is words of affirmation. I find that I am happiest when I both give and receive kind and uplifting words from my significant other and my friends. I would like to say that I am a fairly positive person, and I like to take that energy and put it into words to help others when they aren’t feeling very positive. I also find that because I do this so often for others and it makes me feel good, it makes me very happy and makes me feel loved when others reciprocate this. I can occasionally have the tendency to doubt and overthink things, and when those closest to me help remind me that everything is going to be okay, I feel incredibly loved and supported.
Nyla Graham:
Originally, I would say my strongest love language is gift giving, but after looking at the different languages; I’d say my love language is acts of service. I will go above and beyond for the people I care about whether they know it or not. I know the things that make my friends happy so sometimes I will go out of my way to do them. I will also volunteer to do things simply because I like helping my friends out.
Kae Jimenez:
My love language is love. I love deeply. We are locked in when I love someone. Giving gifts and performing acts of kindness are absolutely things I enjoy doing. Especially considering the sincerity of my gifts. When someone tells me they love or enjoy something, it sticks with me because I pay attention to the little things. My go-to presents are sentimental items and things you show interest in. Next would be spending quality time. I cherish my time with family and friends. You never know when someone will need you. I enjoy staying up till 4 am or 5 am in the morning because those are the kinds of times I value most. For the people I care about, being on time is really important to me. It will also be on my list to support others. I make an effort to help everyone and everything. I think there is room for everyone to succeed. My entire love bag is made of love. For me, love entails fidelity, sacrifice, sincerity, empathy, community, and affection. I love from the bottom of my heart, and as long as I’m here, you’ll always have me.
Stephanie Michels:
My love language is definitely physical touch. It’s beautiful to me. Even a small brush against someone’s hand is enough to show how much you love someone. I don’t know what makes touch so comforting to me, but having contact with someone has been my favorite thing since I was little.
Physical touch with my partner is usually the smallest thing like holding their hand or laying on their chest. My family, immediate and extended members, give each other hugs when we see each other and before we leave to go home. What is most special to me is every time I see my young cousins they yell my name and run to give me a bear hug.
Touch is what makes my life full and meaningful.
Bailey Thomas:
My love language is definitely quality time. Spending time with people is what really helps me to connect with them because I get to know them on deeper levels. If I am spending a lot of time with you, I’m showing you how much I care about you as a person. Especially because everyone is so busy, I feel like if a person is taking time out of their schedule to be with me, it shows how much they love me.
Kiara Montero:
My love language is words of affirmation. I’ve always used writing as a way of expressing myself so I got comfortable using my words to show my appreciation. That’s the number one way I usually show love to those around me, through my words. Eventually, I learned that I always look to tell people how I feel about them because I love that feeling in return. I usually feel the best when I hear how much someone admires me or how proud of me they are. Those words stick and replay in my head over and over when I need them the most. Therefore, I give that in return. Whether it’s my friends, family, or partner I’ll always make sure to communicate some uplifting messages to them throughout the week so I know I’m contributing to their happiness. We don’t know what people battle with every day, words of affirmation give you the opportunity to uplift your loved ones. I’ve learned that regardless of who I’m interacting with in my personal life, this love language is always present.
Starr Sanders:
My love language is quality time. I love spending time with my partner and making memories. Memories are a gift to me, especially the great times. If, I am spending a lot of time with it a person you can tell how much I care for them for example my family. Quality time can be spent with friends, family, or your partner but love language is a great way of showing interest. Showing that you are there for someone can make them feel loved.
Laurin Felldin:
Personally I feel like my language is quality time. While I may be someone who is naturally a bit more introverted, if I find people I like I will naturally want to spend more time with them. This isn’t limited to being platonic or romantic. Although the feel of quality time may change depending on the person. I enjoy just being in the same room as someone I care about, we don’t have to be doing much or really even conversing at times. As long as we are enjoying each other’s presence that’s good enough for me.
Lily Logan:
My love language is gift-giving. Material objects always remind me of specific people. I love shopping, wrapping gifts up, and watching my partner open them in front of me. They are not a materialistic person, so when I give them something, I always enjoy the reaction. Holding their hand and watching the excitement grow is always worth the process and makes me so fulfilled. Sometimes the gifts are small, big, or even homemade like mugs and cards. Generosity as a whole always leaves me feeling the happiest.
Alexandria Wyckoff:
My love language would probably be either physical touch or just being near the person. I haven’t been able to date anyone in a couple of years, so I am not speaking from recent experience, but I can say that I miss just being able to hold someone’s hand or give them a hug when I am feeling out of sorts. Just being in the presence of someone who cares deeply for you is an experience that I would love to have. It makes everything else fade in a way that no other distraction can.
April White:
I feel like I have a mix of different love languages that describe how I show my love, but I think the main one would be gift-giving. I hate telling people my love language is gift-giving because I feel like it reads as very conceited or materialistic, but it really isn’t like that! I love making, buying, or finding little items that remind me of another person. I believe that seeing and being reminded that someone is thinking of you, even in the little moments, is the greatest gift you can give. One of the most memorable gifts I’ve ever been given was a round rock, from a past boyfriend, who had written our initials in sharpie and left it on my desk for me to find later on.
Amani De La Cruz:
My love language is gift-giving, which means that I express affection and feel love through the act of giving and receiving gifts. For me, gifts are tangible symbols of love and appreciation that show me that someone has been thinking of me and cares about my happiness. I put a lot of thought and effort into selecting the perfect gift for my loved ones, and receiving thoughtful gifts in return makes me feel loved. It’s important for me to feel that my gifts are well-received and appreciated and I enjoy creating meaningful experiences and memories through the act of gift-giving.
Tahliyah Browne:
My love language is quality time. I have a short tolerance for people. So when I want to hang out with people in my free time or while running errands, I know I value their presence. Making time for us to hang out doesn’t go unseen when there are 1000 and one other things that the person can be doing instead.
Ellen Argueta:
When I think of my love language, I honestly can’t just pick one, they all seem to relate to me. I love words of affirmation, I’m always reassuring those that I love because I feel like they deserve to hear it. I also love to make gifts for my friends and family, it makes me feel so happy to see them happy. Additionally, I love giving and receiving hugs so I also relate to the physical touch one. I always try to be there for others in terms of acts of service because I feel like what goes around eventually comes back to you. Lastly, I love spending quality time with those I love because it shows that I value them so much to spend some of my valuable time with them.