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Being Independent and Loving It

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Oregon chapter.

At one point, no matter who you are, there will be a time when you’re alone. Not in every sense, but in a way that allows you to become yourself. There will be a point when you find that you’re not associated with anybody, that your name stands solo when it is said, and you should love this moment. This moment is when you’ve experienced some life and some heartbreak from others and from yourself, and now you’re finally able to grow from it. Being single holds a stigma that that person is unwanted or damaged, but in reality, that person is just working on being a better them because it’s true that you need to love yourself before you can love someone else. So you’re here, you’re single and you’re anxious to take the next step. But first, take a second. Realize that nobody is going anywhere and that there will be just as many wannabe playboys left when you’re ready to jump back in. You’re at this moment in your life for a reason, and, whether you chose it or not, it’s your reality. 

My best advice is that you should learn more about yourself. Maybe you were in a relationship before and it didn’t work out, or maybe you haven’t found anyone yet that deserves to be with you, but either way, at this moment, your main relationship is with yourself. Go on long walks and drives, figure out a new hobby that could maybe turn into a passion, and realize that you’re okay. Being single is a chance to be independent and prove that you excel in the world with only yourself. I can’t promise that you’ll find the love of your life when you’re not looking but, then again, the love of your life should be yourself, and that should be your priority. 

The past can hold experiences of heartbreak, want, and low feelings. Why would you want to relive that? Why hold yourself in a place that causes you so much pain, waiting for another person to put salt in the wound? No matter your circumstances, you’ll be happier when you accept yourself and love who you are and who you’re becoming. Enjoy the day to day things and live the life you’ve always wanted because you don’t need to wait for someone to do all the things you want to do. Go on a spontaneous road trip, see a scary movie and experience everything with yourself, for yourself. From now on, this is your time, and you’re not single, you’re independent and living your life. 

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