Engaged?? But They're My Age...

“When you know, you know.” | “It was love at first sight.” | “Together forever.”

 

Why is young marriage a defensive topic? What are the pros and cons of marrying young? Are those people from high school really going to stay together forever?

 

Here are the stats. In the 1800s to early 1900s, young marriages were the norm and were in many cases arranged. Then, the marriage age seems to jump from teens to late ’20s. Now, the majority of marriages/engagements happen at ages before 22. Although, with this decrease in marriage age, there’s also an increase in divorce rates. Studies also suggest that the ‘perfect’ age to marry is between ages 27-32. So, is young marriage wrong? Not necessarily. 

 

With a little digging, I found several experiments showing that men marrying in their early twenties tend to drink less when compared to a single man. They were also more likely to work harder than a single man. Studies also show that people who marry young will have more SEX when compared to those who wait to marry in their 30’s and 40’s. Another state’s health benefits in childbearing. Another showing that younger marriages were happier than those who marry later in life.  

 

So what are the cons? One of the largest is the statistic showing that the majority of these marriages only last 7yrs due to financial stress and childbearing stress. Another, the separation due to outgrowing one another. Lastly, those who marry at an older age have lower divorce rates.

a man and a woman sit on a park bench looking frustrated 

 

Moreover, those couples from high school may or may not stay together. Does it really even matter? Some people are lucky enough to find their soulmate early in life. Unfortunately, some don’t. Either way, there’s no point in feeling left behind. Your time will come. “When you know, you know.”

 And that’s the tea.