It’s October. Que the ABC Family–because who really calls it Freeform–Halloween movie marathon, sexy costume search, and pumpkin spice everything. Fall is all fun and games until you find yourself getting “ghosted” during the prime period of cuffing season — and I’m not talking about Casper.
When I’ve been ghosted by a guy I find myself stalking his social media, posting super cute snapchats in hopes of getting his attention, or even *cringes* double texting him to see what’s really going on. When the simple tricks to get things back on track don’t work and you’re left feeling restless, helpless, and completely out of luck with love — it’s time to devise a plan of action.
Step 1: If you are reading this please know that you are too cute to be waiting around miserable for any guy or girl to recognize your beauty and brilliance
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Step 2: If they want to play like Casper the Ghost, then you need to treat them like Casper the Ghost. Try not to let yourself sulk in their absence. If someone has ghosted you there is obviously a reason, but don’t burden yourself with the task of trying to figure it out. It is that person’s responsibility to explain themselves when they’re done playing Casper. Don’t make it your duty to reconcile things between the two of you. If and how this person comes back into the picture will speak volumes to their character and feelings about you.
Step 3: Flex. Yes, my Her Campus cuties, I have all the lingo. They say you can’t flex on someone who doesn’t’t care about you, but I promise, you can! Turn your flex into a win-win situation. Don’t just plot on a new hairstyle or what outfit you’ll be wearing when you show up at the party you know they’re going to be at. Set goals that will lead you to becoming a better version of yourself. For example, write out that workout plan that you’ve been putting off since last summer or reallocate the time you would have been spending stalking their social media to researching internships or grad school options. Put all of your extra energy and time into yourself, then when you catch yourself feeling lonely or hurt over ol’ Casper you can at least cheer yourself up when you reflect on all the moves you’ve been making!
Getting ghosted by someone is still hard but always remember that how someone else treats you is their path and how you react is your own. Even when the ones we admire do not choose us, we must still remember to choose us!