So recently you’ve been spending a lot of quality time with your significant other… Working out what makes them tick, their best qualities (and their worst), when all of a sudden you realise that you not only don’t mind their dirty habits, but you’d quite happily clean their whole house just to make them smile once. After spending hours dreaming about his “sexy” lop-sided stubble and “cute” out-of-tune shower singing, you may begin to question your sanity before finally realising that you love him. Now you somehow have to work out if the man – who couldn’t catch a hint if it landed in his hands – feels the same and even more significantly, should you say those three little words before he does??
Even in the 21st Century, women are incapable of expressing their love for fear of seeming over-committed or crazy. I mean, sure, one day I may want to tie the knot and have your babies, but right now all I’m telling you is how I feel, is that so outrageous?
So… If you’ve decided to take the plunge and say it first, here are some helpful tips and hints:
Think before you speak
If you’ve only mused over the idea whilst in a daze before falling asleep or thought you might, panicked and googled what to do about it, then wait a bit. Stop. Have a proper think, maybe even write it all down to help you make sense of your muddled, love-ridden mind. We all know you shouldn’t say things that you don’t really mean and “I love you” isn’t often a phrase you can take back easily…
Time and place
In a club after a heavy pre drinks and 5 tequila shots probably isn’t the ideal moment to announce your feelings of love and adoration. It’s probably best to wait until you’re on your own together in a place you both feel comfortable or extra romantic… Maybe the following morning after he held your hair back for two hours while the tequila wreaked havoc? I mean, he must love you back to deal with that right?
Be courageous
Don’t fear (not too much anyway!) rejection. If he is deserving of your love then even if he doesn’t feel the same yet, he’ll appreciate you saying it and respect you for having the guts to come out with it! You may find the thought hadn’t even crossed his mind (maybe he’s a bit slow and needs some encouragement in these things) and now you’ve planted the seeds for reciprocation in the near future. HOWEVER if he’s a douche about it and makes you feel bad, weeelllll…. I suggest you take your love elsewhere and shower it on someone more appreciative!
Do some detective work
I’m not suggesting you stalk through his browser history or watch him while he sleeps just in case he whispers your name, but keep an eye out for tell-tale signs that he might be feeling the same way. Maybe he keeps telling you how much he just LOVES the way you make a cup of tea or perhaps he can tell when you’re fake smiling. If he’s being all cheesy and appreciative then chances are he’s well on his way to feeling the same!
My sympathy for all those experiencing the emotional turmoil of falling in love; let’s hope and pray that it is as romantic and successful as we’ve dreamed it would be ever since we first watched Taylor Swift’s music videos aged 15… Maybe scrawling it on a piece of paper and thrusting it in his face is the way forward?
Edited by Lucy Jackman
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