Celebrity Big Brother is over for another year and this series wasn’t short of a classic reality love triangle. Pop star Lee Ryan romanced US model Jasmine Lennard before moving on to British glamour model Casey Batchelor. Jasmine decided to make her feelings known, but it was Casey who was firmly in the firing line.
In an unrelenting two minute speech, Jasmine outlined how her love-rival “completely threw herself” at Lee, adding “As a girl’s girl…I just wanna let you know how embarrassing you’ve looked (sic).”
A quick web search reveals that Jasmine isn’t alone in sending “The Other Woman” to the top of her hit list. US site She’s a Homewrecker allows users to “expose” women they believe have slept with their husbands and boyfriends, with no apparent censorship other than the site’s reminder that “once a post is up, it stays up!”
All of which begs the question: If your boyfriend does the dirty on you, is the person he cheats with as much to blame?
Hannah Jones*, a second year, confronted the girl her ex cheated with after he admitted he’d been unfaithful. “I asked her if she’d done it and she openly admitted it… then I bitched a lot. She most definitely knew we were together. I knew she’d been sending him racy texts since we started dating, so she’d encouraged it.”
Jenny Holmes* found out her ex was cheating after finding messages on his phone and confronting the girl. “I said I wanted to know what was going on girl to girl, and she told me pretty much everything. Out of pain I slipped in a dig at her telling her not to think she was anything special.”
Despite the upset, both girls say they’re glad they talked to the other girl. Jenny points out, “I’d probably have still been with him if she hadn’t told me what was going on.”
Hannah adds, “This girl knew she would be hurting me and did it anyway, so the confrontation helped me alleviate the anger at her. But it does depend on whether the girl knew what she was doing or not.”
Third year Hayley West* backs this up. She found out that a guy she was seeing had a girlfriend when he started brushing her off. “I wasn’t confronted by the girl but she made it pretty clear he was hers!
“She made him block me on Facebook and delete my number, and his final message was ‘I never want to speak to you again.’
“It annoyed me that she didn’t speak to me; I would have liked to get my story across.”
Confronting people who have hurt you is healthier than bottling things up and, in certain circumstances, going to the other girl can be more informative than asking the person you trusted not to cheat on you. Ultimately it’s up to you whether you confront or not, but when it comes to cheating partners, just remember who really betrayed you…
Edited by Luisa Parnell