Sexting has always been a big help in the sex life of almost every couple in a lot of situations. Will you meet your SO later in the evening and you want to pre-foreplay before seeing him? Are you in a long distance relationship but still want to maintain that spice? Sexting is a great way for either of those situations but a lot of women and men feel uncomfortable with the idea.
When asking male opinions most of them find sexting “fun and intimate” because it helps you “fantasize about what is going to happen in real life in a few hours/weeks depending on the situation” and find it a “turn on”. They like seeing the “naughty side of the woman through texting” and preparing them for something “even naughtier in later in bed”. There was indeed a minority who “do not like sexting” as they find “boring describing what they would do to each other without having real actual contact”. Therefore, it really depends on the personality of your SO and what they prefer. However, you should be really careful to only text with people you truly trust – your SO, a trustworthy lover – and be sure that they will not show them around to boast. Especially, if you are thinking about sending a picture I do not encourage it but if you want it is better to go for a semi-reviling one and hiding your face, just to be safe.
To be honest, it is not such an easy thing to do at the beginning, no one in her/his first time sexting feels comfortable with the idea of sharing thoughts through texts but even feels that they might make the receiver uncomfortable or even that they will get mocked. The key is to feel comfortable with it yourself first and then test the waters and see whether the receiver approves feels the same way. Most people would be baffled if you were both talking about how work or lectures and then you just send an out of the blue ‘I need you inside me right now’! You should prepare the other person for what you are trying to do here, see whether they are going with you and then dive deep. When I asked most males replied that they like getting sexts when the least expect; but not while you are having a conversation about something else because you interrupt their train of thought and they get confused.
A really good starting point is asking him questions like “What are you wearing right now?”, “What is the sexiest outfit you can think me in that would turn you on?” or “What was your favourite outfit I have worn?” The idea is to make him imagine you wearing something sexy so he has a vision of you when you become more explicit for a more vivid result.
Later on, you can continue with something in the lines of “What is your favourite sexual fantasy?” or “If I was with you right now, dressed in [outfit you previously discussed], what would we be doing?” In this way you provide a setting to make his vivid imagination of more real and encourage him to continue it.
After this it is up to you whether you want to continue the conversation with more explicit content or whether you just wanted him turned on for tonight when you arranged a date. If you want to end the conversation then and there something along the lines “Hold on to that thought until tonight ;)”, “We will make your fantasy reality tonight, be prepared” or “I will be wearing that outfit tonight. I am expecting a lot of fun tonight ;)” If you want to continue sexting then you should become more intimate and tell him what you want him to do to you (“I want to feel you inside me while I am leaning against the window”) and encouraging him to explain to you in detail by asking him “Where would you start touching me first?” The trick is to encourage him to tell you his deepest desires but participate as well telling him yours so you can both have a good time!
Edited by Nicole Swain
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