Sexting has always been a big help in the sex life of almost every couple in a lot of situations. Will you meet your SO later in the evening and you want to pre-foreplay before seeing him? Â Are you in a long distance relationship but still want to maintain that spice? Sexting is a great way for either of those situations but a lot of women and men feel uncomfortable with the idea.
When asking male opinions most of them find sexting âfun and intimateâ because it helps you âfantasize about what is going to happen in real life in a few hours/weeks depending on the situationâ and find it a âturn onâ. They like seeing the ânaughty side of the woman through textingâ and preparing them for something âeven naughtier in later in bedâ. There was indeed a minority who âdo not like sextingâ as they find âboring describing what they would do to each other without having real actual contactâ. Therefore, it really depends on the personality of your SO and what they prefer. However, you should be really careful to only text with people you truly trust â your SO, a trustworthy lover â and be sure that they will not show them around to boast. Especially, if you are thinking about sending a picture I do not encourage it but if you want it is better to go for a semi-reviling one and hiding your face, just to be safe.
To be honest, it is not such an easy thing to do at the beginning, no one in her/his first time sexting feels comfortable with the idea of sharing thoughts through texts but even feels that they might make the receiver uncomfortable or even that they will get mocked. The key is to feel comfortable with it yourself first and then test the waters and see whether the receiver approves feels the same way. Most people would be baffled if you were both talking about how work or lectures and then you just send an out of the blue âI need you inside me right nowâ! You should prepare the other person for what you are trying to do here, see whether they are going with you and then dive deep. When I asked most males replied that they like getting sexts when the least expect; but not while you are having a conversation about something else because you interrupt their train of thought and they get confused.
A really good starting point is asking him questions like âWhat are you wearing right now?â, âWhat is the sexiest outfit you can think me in that would turn you on?â or âWhat was your favourite outfit I have worn?â The idea is to make him imagine you wearing something sexy so he has a vision of you when you become more explicit for a more vivid result.
Later on, you can continue with something in the lines of âWhat is your favourite sexual fantasy?â or âIf I was with you right now, dressed in [outfit you previously discussed], what would we be doing?â In this way you provide a setting to make his vivid imagination of more real and encourage him to continue it.
After this it is up to you whether you want to continue the conversation with more explicit content or whether you just wanted him turned on for tonight when you arranged a date. If you want to end the conversation then and there something along the lines âHold on to that thought until tonight ;)â, âWe will make your fantasy reality tonight, be preparedâ or âI will be wearing that outfit tonight. I am expecting a lot of fun tonight ;)â If you want to continue sexting then you should become more intimate and tell him what you want him to do to you (âI want to feel you inside me while I am leaning against the windowâ) and encouraging him to explain to you in detail by asking him âWhere would you start touching me first?â The trick is to encourage him to tell you his deepest desires but participate as well telling him yours so you can both have a good time!
Edited by Nicole Swain
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