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Can you date someone you don’t see yourself marrying?

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Notre Dame chapter.

Can you date someone you don’t see yourself marrying?

Fricking duh yeah. I didn’t know I was in my late thirties with my biological clock ticking but thank you for trying to make me feel crappy about my fantastic single life. I’ll rewind for you a bit.
 
I went on a cruise with a couple of my girls for spring break to Mexico and as we were sipping on pina coladas that question was brought up. Almost immediately every single one of them said, “Absolutely not!” What?! I didn’t realize I was friends with such Domers but there you have it. I piped in that casual dating can actually be a healthy thing at our age and I don’t want to date seriously until I’m at least in graduate school. They stared at me like I had third eye and began to bombard me with statements that I was going to die alone with a bunch of cats and really need to settle down as soon as possible.
 
Hey, I’m allergic to cats.
 
Girlies, let me tell you the truth; your tits will never be this high and your ass never so tight. You will never be surrounded by such a plethora of attractive young men with thick hair lines. Why on earth date someone for two years when statistically you will probably never end up with them. You’ve just wasted prime time youth were you could have been having amazing nights with your girls. Also, this is a fantastic time to learn what you want in a man and what works for you. If you’ve only ever dated one person how do you truly know they’re your type?
 
Think of men as your shoes. You go to the store and try a bunch on until you find that right fit and purchase them. You take them home and realize that the ones you bought actually look horrible in the long mirror of your dorm hallway so you take them back.
 
When you’re gray and sitting with your husband, you’re going to think back to college and regret the years you spent with that one asshole instead of with your friends. You’re junk wasn’t sagging back then and ya should have been dating a bunch of fun guys.
 
Most importantly, don’t take yourself so seriously. It’s girls like you who ruin it for the rest of us chickies just trying to have fun. ;)
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AnnaLee Rice

Notre Dame

AnnaLee Rice is a senior at the University of Notre Dame with a double major in Economics and Political Science and a minor in PPE. In addition to being the HCND Campus Correspondent, she is editor-in-chief of the undergraduate philosophy research journal, a research assistant for the Varieties of Democracy project, and a campus tour guide.  She believes in democracy and Essie nailpolish but distrusts pumpkin spice lattes because they are gross.