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Sex, Studies and Saturdays: Fight Fair

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Wolves on the Prowl Student Contributor, North Carolina State University
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Kristie Demers Student Contributor, North Carolina State University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at NCSU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.
Everyone knows that relationships have their fair share of arguments. But who is the first to say sorry? Is it the person that started the argument or is it just the person that gives in first?
 

In my experience, it always seems like the girl is the one to give up and just say sorry. I got lucky in my relationship. We rarely have arguments, they are more like disagreements. But when we do, he never gives in. His side of the story, or his opinion, is always the right one. And honestly, it annoys the hell out of me. But he just cannot be wrong. It is against his guy-hood or something. Usually when we have our big fights I get upset, start crying, and just forget who started the fight. It always ends up being my fault, because either I started it, or I did something wrong. Now we could keep it up for hours, but I don’t want to spend my whole night fighting. I’m the one that gives in, I’m the one that says I’m sorry and I’m the one that tries to fix it.

 
It just seems to me that girls are the ones that usually end up getting upset, crying and apologizing.
Why do guys not want to say sorry? I’m guessing it’s their pride. They just can’t be wrong. Or is it that
they just don’t really care once they get their two-cents out. Whatever their reason is, it can be really
irritating for girls.
 
I try to fight fair. I don’t want to bring up ex-girlfriends or the things he has done in the past, but sometimes it gets to the point where I just can’t help it. And guys, they do it too. But instead of bringing it up later in the argument, guys just drop the bomb at the beginning of the fight. And that hurts us more. At least we try to wait until we have nothing else to fight you with.
 
Relationship fights suck. End of story. But when they occur, fight fair. And both sides, try to apologize!
Campus Correspondent and Founder of Her Campus NCSU - kristiedemers@hercampus.com Kristie Demers is a Senior English major at North Carolina State University. When she isn't studying or busy working on campus, Kristie enjoys running, writing, reading, photography, and painting. She volunteered as an athletic trainer for the Cheerleading team freshman year and developed an unwavering devotion for the Wolfpack. This Wisconsin natives passions include traveling, spending time with family and friends, and loving even the little things in life. Although she is down to earth and loves making people smile, Kristie is hard working and welcomes challenges. All that this happy-go-lucky girl dreams for the future is to write for a magazine and live at the beach. In the meantime, her heart lies in the bricks at N.C. State and beats with every chime of the Bell Tower!