Imagine you just got out of a terrible breakup, months passed by and you’re enjoying the single life and then BOOM. You open up Snapchat and what do you see? Past flashback snaps of your ex in your memories. If your someone like me, these past memories could bring up unwanted feelings. So, what’s the solution? Here are 5 easy steps to leave the past in the past… for good this time.
Step 1: The most obvious one; DELETE THE SNAPS, DELETE EVERYTHING SIS!!
Listen, the only way the get rid of the memories is to get rid of those snaps!. This also goes for pictures in you photo album, Drop Box, and Google Docs. Google Docs does those flashback/ memory pictures too, but the gag is they send it to your email #NoThankYou. The last thing you want is Snapchat or Google Docs sending you a notification of a memory of “would have been year anniversary” just days before you birthday. What a mood killer! Yes, I’m talking from experience.
Step 2: You have got to let him/her go… PERIODDTTT
I know it can be hard to let someone go, especially if you loved them. Trust me, out of all people I know the feeling. Eventually, you’re going to have to let yourself heal from the pain and move on to better yourself. Holding on to something that’s not there anymore is not going to help you. If it was really meant to be, it would have been.
Step 3: Don’t dwell on the past
If you’re still in that “What If” state of mind, you have to move past that. Constantly asking yourself “What If” is not going to change the fact that it did. Stop worrying about what could have happened if this was different or if that was different. No one can change the past, so the only way to move is forwards. Sometimes, the only way the move past someone is to cry and let it all out. Don’t be afraid of emotion, if you have to cry, then cry. Make sure not to let those heavy emotions take a hold over your life. A little saying, I like to say to myself is “don’t cry over someone who can’t see the love you have for them. Don’t cry over someone who is not willing to fight for you or your relationship. “And yes, I am throwing slight shade.
Step 4: Occupy your mind.
You’re not thinking about your ex if you’re consistently busy. Go to school events, join a couple organizations, hang out with friends (or in my case make new friends), or start a new Netflix series. I currently just finished ‘The Umbrella Academy’ and I am now re-watching the original Charmed. There are so many things you can do to keep your ex out of your mind.
Finally,
Step 5: Everything happens for a reason
You probably are wondering what that reason is behind everything, but just know that things happen the way they’re supposed to happen. Maybe in the future you and that ex will work things out. If that does not happen, don’t stress over it. Always remember that when one door closes, another one opens with bigger and brighter things to come in your future.
XOXO, Sherese